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76. Do you have any clue what it is like to be a single woman

Tue Sep 9, 2014, 07:57 AM

Sep 2014

with a child?

Your responses seem insensitive and show little empathy for what she was going through. Maybe she didn't have family/friends to turn to? Many women, even if they do have a support system, will try against odds to make a relationship work because they think if they are successful it will be better for their children. In cases of divorce we all have come across friends who may have access to their kids every other weekend - but they really have little to say about what happens to their kids when they are with the other parent (unless someone actually does get hurt - you have to prove harm - before the protective orders are granted). It's not always as simple for women as "leave and stay away from him" - that child complicates matters and it may well have blinded her judgment.

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Life is messy. nt ZombieHorde Sep 2014 #1

It's awful shenmue Sep 2014 #2

it would have looked jamzrockz Sep 2014 #3

Yeah, I would absolutely put up with another year's worth of beatings. Sheldon Cooper Sep 2014 #4

Some of these posts are crazy making for me. sufrommich Sep 2014 #5

Your Sheldon gifs are perfect for that response arcane1 Sep 2014 #10

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You're assuming he never hit her before. The next time she could be dead. n/t pnwmom Sep 2014 #23

I'd bet he has hit her before. cwydro Sep 2014 #73

Me, too. If this was the first time, he would have been shocked and remorseful. pnwmom Sep 2014 #74

If he yelled at her or maybe slapped her, maybe, just maybe he'd get a second chance. rhett o rick Sep 2014 #46

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plus all I have in my bucket...a lot! DocMac Sep 2014 #56

wow. Really? fishwax Sep 2014 #6

Because women should always worry about how things 'look' leftstreet Sep 2014 #7

Then why jamzrockz Sep 2014 #9

You don't know what she thought leftstreet Sep 2014 #13

The NFL and Rice were obviously pressuring her to have that press conference and to go through pnwmom Sep 2014 #20

That's ok jamzrockz Sep 2014 #25

There is not a low chance for an abuser to stop abusing, sheshe2 Sep 2014 #41

^^that^^ (n/t) Lefta Dissenter Sep 2014 #54

Did you even watch the video? daschess1987 Sep 2014 #69

Do you have any clue what it is like to be a single woman TBF Sep 2014 #76

There are a number of books chervilant Sep 2014 #42

Maybe she feels safer now that the eyes of the world are on him? gollygee Sep 2014 #47

That's what I was thinking too. n/t nomorenomore08 Sep 2014 #62

Listen to this Harvard grd talk about her relationship.. likesmountains 52 Sep 2014 #55

wtf? elehhhhna Sep 2014 #16

Why is everyone acting as if I am speaking Chinese? jamzrockz Sep 2014 #18

Quite frankly, yes. TDale313 Sep 2014 #27

So what? leftstreet Sep 2014 #28

no, you are apparently speaking as one who does not understand the first thing about niyad Sep 2014 #30

Exactly! daschess1987 Sep 2014 #70

it sounds like there really was nobody there for you and your family. please know how very sorry niyad Sep 2014 #82

Thank you, niyad! daschess1987 Sep 2014 #84

Here's an article that might explain it better than some of us have been doing. pnwmom Sep 2014 #33

Actually I fear for her.... sheshe2 Sep 2014 #44

Agree TexasMommaWithAHat Sep 2014 #78

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You're acting like that's all happening in a vacuum gollygee Sep 2014 #48

"Am I the only one that sees problem with a woman/man marrying a man/woman when he/she has a nomorenomore08 Sep 2014 #63

I hope you are the only one Dorian Gray Sep 2014 #75

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Apparently they even moved the wedding date up. DURHAM D Sep 2014 #37

Their behavior was reprehensible. I hope there's some legal basis for her suing them. nt pnwmom Sep 2014 #39

Baby or not, I don't understand why a woman would marry a man who Arkansas Granny Sep 2014 #8

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Thank you. nt sufrommich Sep 2014 #14

There are many reasons why women stay with abusers. Ilsa Sep 2014 #49

Yes, I think she should have left him, but it is her decision. My cousin was a Psychologist, napi21 Sep 2014 #15

the steroids don't help either elehhhhna Sep 2014 #17

^^^^^ my first question mopinko Sep 2014 #40

Maybe, but if he punched someone on the football spooky3 Sep 2014 #32

Players in the NFL don't have to punch others on the field. dballance Sep 2014 #50

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they are conditioned to be very physically agressive, it can become a habit. bettyellen Sep 2014 #61

I played seven years of football DocMac Sep 2014 #57

Which football hoodlum is this? The elevator guy? cui bono Sep 2014 #21

Yeah, the elevator punch guy. n/t pnwmom Sep 2014 #22

Yeah, just looked it up and saw that. cui bono Sep 2014 #24

Of course it's a terrible reason to get married. pnwmom Sep 2014 #26

I fear for her safety and that of their child underthematrix Sep 2014 #29

I do too dflprincess Sep 2014 #34

Me, too ann--- Sep 2014 #65

K&R! Omaha Steve Sep 2014 #31

;) AuntPatsy Sep 2014 #36

Keith Olbermann lets us know who is actually to blame dflprincess Sep 2014 #35

Wow, that was great! Thanks! nt Logical Sep 2014 #60

I wondered about that but what you said makes sense. Cleita Sep 2014 #38

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+++ Cleita Sep 2014 #51

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She married him shortly after this incident, which leads me to believe mackerel Sep 2014 #59

I'm sure they put a ton of pressure on her. Their behavior was outrageous. n/t pnwmom Sep 2014 #66

What good does ann--- Sep 2014 #64

It was a poor -- but understandable -- decision. Many victims of domestic violence pnwmom Sep 2014 #67

Thanks pnwmom. lovemydog Sep 2014 #68

I still wouldn't marry him! Quantess Sep 2014 #71

That's because you are an emotionally healthy person. But women who stay in relationships pnwmom Sep 2014 #72

After That Video. . . ProfessorGAC Sep 2014 #77

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Thank you for your understanding post. Hopefully it opened some eyes. pnwmom Sep 2014 #80

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