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In reply to the discussion: Why am I always reminded here on DU that women can be abusive just like men? [View all]JohnnyRingo
(18,816 posts)My point, in case you overlooked it, is the plethora of posts here that describe men as ogres who perpetrate violent acts against women without addressing the root problem and what happens when love turns to hate.
It can be frustrating for me to read post after post about what bastards men are when I know first hand that it's not necessarily a gender based issue. To say I'm excusing an act of violence by pointing out the base problem seems goal oriented on your part.
The fact that it may seem overwhelmingly man on woman violence can partly be attributed to an understandable reluctance to report. You have to admit, if my ex had lied to police and accused me of breaking her arm in a pre-emptive attack, the court would have weighed my story vs hers and probably found me guilty. Regardless the chunk of flesh missing from my forearm, it was a case of a big shaggy biker against the petite and cute hippie chick. I certainly wouldn't have wanted to see you on the jury. It's better not to take it legal.
Your view that few "women could knock a man unconscious with a single punch" is how society sees every DV case. Men are supposed to be able to take a good wallop while women are perceived as the weaker sex. The stereotype goes back ages to the embittered woman waiting angrily at the doorway with a rolling pin. Her philandering husband obviously did something to deserve it. Though times have changed somewhat, calling the police in such a case is generally speaking futile.
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