Don't ask why Janay Palmer married him. Ask why anyone would blame a victim.

[Ecumenist]

48. Yep, TexasMommaWithA Hat, I cannot get my head around this. I didn't have much of a choice when I

was a child growing up in the 70's but I knew that I would in adulthood. I was engaged to TWO incredibly wealthy men but they showed me STRONG signs of believing that somehow I would 'BELONG" to them, granting them the right to lay their hands on me or be verbally, sexually or emotionally abusive. I was engaged 7 times and left 3 of them, AT THE ALTAR- in front of friends, family and business associates. I did that because there's not enough money in the world to sell my sense of peace, well being and safety to someone for ANY amount in the world. I refused to return to a time where I was nervous and afraid in MY OWN HOME, wondering when the next physical attack or verbal assault would come. NEVER AGAIN and I've kept that promise to myself. I actually began the divorce process when my husband, (who is bipolar and has depression that presents as rage out of BLOODY NOWHERE), acted a fool and left. He got into treatment and worked to change as much as he could, meds and mental health treatment. He's NOT perfect but he's also NOT the man he was before.

Please accept my gratitude that you raised your baby girls to be strong enough and secure enough to stay out of insanely dangerous relationships like this one. I only wish there were more women like you to build people who will NEVER accept this into their lives. A.N.D, a hearty and belated welcome to DU! right glad tameetcha!