General Discussion
In reply to the discussion: Why am I always reminded here on DU that women can be abusive just like men? [View all]Wholeheartedly agree!
Though I think in this instance, what is being addressed is context. When bringing up that "women can be abusers too" in a thread showcasing something unrelated to women causing abuse (such as women being abused), it becomes a bit of a derailment from the topic (and might also be seen as a way to detract from the severity of the issue). That might not be the intent of the person posting that style of comment... but, even so, it often will be viewed this way.
In cases like this, I think the best way to handle it, is to simply acknowledge that, while, Yes, women can be abusers too, that isn't really germane to the topic at hand... and then suggest getting back on point.
At least, that'd be my suggestion. Might not work for everyone. But may be worth a shot.