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In reply to the discussion: Why am I always reminded here on DU that women can be abusive just like men? [View all]Veilex
(1,555 posts)108. "the timing of them is problematic."
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Why am I always reminded here on DU that women can be abusive just like men? [View all]
trumad
Sep 2014
OP
I think we agree it has no place but I'm not sure it's designed to derail, even if that's the impact
NYC_SKP
Sep 2014
#50
i usually ask/tell them to "start your own thread about it" ... and they almost NEVER do. n/t
Scout
Sep 2014
#63
It isnt true abuse in the same way a white man cannot be a victim of racism.
ncjustice80
Sep 2014
#133
nevertheless, it is still true, that they almost never do start their own thread, independent ...
Scout
Sep 2014
#197
technically- that is gallows humor- common here. Not laughing at a personal story of abuse.
bettyellen
Sep 2014
#125
If a man shoved his wife off a cliff, would that be "permissible" gallows humor too?
ProudToBeBlueInRhody
Sep 2014
#126
I'm not a fan of gallows humor- but I know from experience when a DUer shares a personal story of
bettyellen
Sep 2014
#151
I think it should remain clear that domestic violence is still primarily men vs. women...
cascadiance
Sep 2014
#43
Not as much as primarily or not it's that men tend to be physically stronger than women.
Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin
Sep 2014
#114
Did you look at the link at all? Testosterone does not impact a desire to fight.
Veilex
Sep 2014
#179
"the study didn't include physical aggression" - Again, are you even looking at the link?
Veilex
Sep 2014
#184
120 subjects is certainly enough for generalized testing of hormone effects....
Veilex
Sep 2014
#185
You are excusing her violence when you say, "These things happened in part because I provoked her."
pnwmom
Sep 2014
#55
(Bureau of Justice Statistics, 2001) - I think your stats may be a little off...
Veilex
Sep 2014
#144
I didn't say you claim racism doesn't exist. I said your solution is to pretend it doesn't exist.
kcr
Sep 2014
#192
Yes, a homeless white man dying of cancer is better off than a black man in the same situation
eridani
Sep 2014
#95
No, these threads don't label all men as abusers, they label men who abuse as abusers
CreekDog
Sep 2014
#139
I think the proper response is "That's irrelevant" or "We're not talking about that"
tclambert
Sep 2014
#51
I think it's a good idea to 'inoculate' against the inevitable people bring it up.
Erich Bloodaxe BSN
Sep 2014
#54
"Is it an attempt to minimize the issue of male abuse against women?"
beam me up scottie
Sep 2014
#84
I think anyone who's been abused should be able to talk about it here, if they want. Period.
villager
Sep 2014
#104
Probably for the same reason I am reminded every day that men can abuse women.
Egnever
Sep 2014
#113
If you think men who are abused don't have an equal, though different, set of challenges...
moriah
Sep 2014
#128
But it's far better to express abuse in gender-neutral terms, because it DOES happen to both.
moriah
Sep 2014
#195
Are you saying the poster is a right-wing troll playing extreme LW parody?
ProudToBeBlueInRhody
Sep 2014
#189
Deny and deflect! It's the same thing that happens whenever something racist happens.
Liberal_Stalwart71
Sep 2014
#162