How to know that you hate women

[mindwalker_i]

172. One of the posts in another subthread

talked about the possibility of "pigeonholing." When someone has had an experience and come to a conclusion about why something happened, when they see a similar situation, they believe it's the same reason. So in your case, you are applying the same conclusion to a situation that has some similarities but for which you lack all of his history. There are many possible causes for Ray hitting his gal, and you simply lack the information to be able to say you know what the cause is.

Oddly enough as I was thinking about it last night, I realized that I'm doing the same thing. What I see in Rice is every fucking bully to beat me up and harassed me in school, so I'm applying the same conclusions I came to about them, to Rice. Since I also lack history about his history, my beliefs about why he hit his gal are probably also not correct.

So we're probably both wrong - since neither of us have sufficient information. And both of us are in danger of actually being limited by our experiences. With a lack of information, it's far too easy to fill in the (huge) gaps with what we want them to be and I'll go a step further: both of us have an emotional need to fill those gaps with our pasts, and the more traumatic our experiences were, the deeper the need.

Your last several posts have translated rather well to, "I've been through stuff, so you need to believe me," and in fact you've made an effort to avoid any reasoned arguments I've put forth. That's not an argument, it's not even a discussion, but but it shows that you have an emotional need to have at least me just believe you. It's like when people say that God exists, they know it, and you just have to believe them, but the entire religion, not argue about the glaring inconsistencies, and basically shut up. For the same reasons I'm incapable to accepting that, I can't accept your beliefs.