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fadedrose

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72. I don't approve, but sometimes it can't be helped

Wed Sep 17, 2014, 02:03 AM

Sep 2014

Tempers flare, etc., and a hand smack on the bum, gentle, might calm things, especially if a kid is overtired, hungry, or denied some toy at the toy store. Sometimes there's no time to wait till the trantrum is over....

No beatings....and slaps are so rare they are memorable to the parent even years later...

An example of mine is when I slapped my grandson on the bum when he was very young because he was touching and attempting to eat kitty litter in the laundry room. He had to know that this was not acceptable. He was so surprised he never touched it again.

In the cases I mean, the parent feels worse than the kid when the slap is necessary....right or wrong, it happens...and when it's not a pattern or habit, the kid will be okay.....

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Do you approve of hitting children to punish them, under certain conditions? [View all] Nye Bevan Sep 2014 OP

My "yes" vote is for spankings only. deathrind Sep 2014 #1

Spanking a 4 year OK with you? Beaverhausen Sep 2014 #5

^ this AnalystInParadise Sep 2014 #6

That makes no sense, literally less sense than spanking kids at younger ages than 12... Humanist_Activist Sep 2014 #13

Instill the fear of being beaten early, huh? Scootaloo Sep 2014 #27

Not arguing for it, I just find it fucking stupider than using violence as discipline.... Humanist_Activist Sep 2014 #43

Seriously? Spanking 12-17 year olds is okay? NaturalHigh Sep 2014 #31

ugh. the component of that that's really sickening is cali Sep 2014 #41

Not really AnalystInParadise Sep 2014 #50

I was never spanked tammywammy Sep 2014 #52

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I disagree AnalystInParadise Sep 2014 #62

Drug addiction is very complex JonLP24 Sep 2014 #66

yeah. I buy that. Not. spanking a teenager is sick. cali Sep 2014 #69

I disagree AnalystInParadise Sep 2014 #71

No. It's not merely a difference in opinion. cali Sep 2014 #74

Fortunately AnalystInParadise Sep 2014 #75

ROFLMAO. Brickbat Sep 2014 #47

Your teens really dreaded a spanking more than losing their cellphone privileges? moriah Sep 2014 #63

Kids weren't allowed AnalystInParadise Sep 2014 #64

See, it wouldn't have worked on me. moriah Sep 2014 #68

This is the 1st time I've heard of this method gwheezie Sep 2014 #77

Sticks? nt Logical Sep 2014 #10

No, but if a child (or adult) is about to touch something dangerous, I may smack their hand. NYC_SKP Sep 2014 #2

Sooooo . . . Laffy Kat Sep 2014 #61

Your example is a great one, it's nice when there is time to consider kinder ways to react. NYC_SKP Sep 2014 #70

No, No, No BlueJazz Sep 2014 #3

Never under any circumstances. morningfog Sep 2014 #4

You're putting tickling and picking up in the same bracket as smacking? Turborama Sep 2014 #7

Not in the same argument. morningfog Sep 2014 #12

Well, I wholeheartedly agree with this... Turborama Sep 2014 #20

Do you have children? oberliner Sep 2014 #8

I do. morningfog Sep 2014 #15

That is interesting oberliner Sep 2014 #21

My son used to tell us when he needed to be punished notadmblnd Sep 2014 #54

People who tickle without consent are SADISTS, in my experience. Manifestor_of_Light Sep 2014 #29

wow. Weird. laundry_queen Sep 2014 #32

That's awful. Manifestor_of_Light Sep 2014 #38

This sub-thread reminds me of a memorable Louie episode JonLP24 Sep 2014 #67

This message was self-deleted by its author Manifestor_of_Light Sep 2014 #30

I dunno, I think pretend fighting for boys teaches them self-control. joshcryer Sep 2014 #36

I never allowed that. notadmblnd Sep 2014 #55

Nope. NaturalHigh Sep 2014 #9

Never. john kale Sep 2014 #11

Welcome to DU, john. ScreamingMeemie Sep 2014 #14

Thanks a lot. john kale Sep 2014 #17

Great post. NaturalHigh Sep 2014 #24

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Good observation. laundry_queen Sep 2014 #33

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Welcome to DU! yuiyoshida Sep 2014 #48

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I believe in walking away when I feel my emotions, my reaction, getting out of hand. ScreamingMeemie Sep 2014 #16

yep, cuz I'm usually mad about some other shit Quayblue Sep 2014 #23

I have had to do that before. laundry_queen Sep 2014 #34

No, hitting a child means there's a serious failure at an attempt to discipline the child... Humanist_Activist Sep 2014 #18

If you're an adult and you have to make your point by hitting your kid with a leather belt tularetom Sep 2014 #19

I voted no davidpdx Sep 2014 #22

I don't believe in violence. flvegan Sep 2014 #25

I voted "no" but only because madamesilverspurs Sep 2014 #26

It Is My Hope Wolf Frankula Sep 2014 #28

"Timeout" is 10000x more effective. joshcryer Sep 2014 #35

I have to agree. I was spanked maybe once or twice as a small child, but I don't really remember it. nomorenomore08 Sep 2014 #40

Physical is quickly forgot. joshcryer Sep 2014 #42

Nope. Not this side of hell. defacto7 Sep 2014 #37

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I'm not a fan of corporal punishment, even if I recognize that there are different degrees of it. nomorenomore08 Sep 2014 #39

No. elleng Sep 2014 #51

No. Warren DeMontague Sep 2014 #53

Not under any conditions. BillZBubb Sep 2014 #56

It is never EVER proper to use violence to punish children. MohRokTah Sep 2014 #57

No. Never. Laffy Kat Sep 2014 #59

No, not really. bravenak Sep 2014 #60

It's intresting how similar the defense for 'corperal punishment' is to domestic abuse. Lancero Sep 2014 #65

I don't approve, but sometimes it can't be helped fadedrose Sep 2014 #72

No. Never. a la izquierda Sep 2014 #73

I remember only being hit once gwheezie Sep 2014 #76

If God asks, I'll think about it jberryhill Sep 2014 #78