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Lancero

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39. I find it intresting the number of corperal punishment recipiants later say that they...

Thu Sep 18, 2014, 02:39 PM

Sep 2014

love and respect the person that punished them, that they have a emotional bond with this person.

Given that this love and respect is present for a person who uses violence, pain, and intimidation as a form of discipline - Well, not discipline at that young of age... When it starts, it more used as a form of control - it's hard to say if it's genuine care for a parent, or a case of Stockholm Syndrome.

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Parents who use corporal punishment always seem to say the same thing. I don't buy it [View all] cali Sep 2014 OP

Did you see this from overnite? Corporal punishment is most suitable for younger kids HereSince1628 Sep 2014 #1

You're right that parents hit their children when they are angry. Nitram Sep 2014 #2

I would say that in some of my father's beatings of me he was angry... HereSince1628 Sep 2014 #5

Yes, both my parents were hyper-sensitive to "respect" Nitram Sep 2014 #13

I find the insistence that they hit their kids in a calm, cool manner even more horrifying. Brickbat Sep 2014 #3

that's a good point. cali Sep 2014 #6

Brickbat, I believe you make a case for all corporal punishment being counter-productive. Nitram Sep 2014 #14

K&R treestar Sep 2014 #4

if it works d_r Sep 2014 #7

I was told it DOES work because pain is an effective tool to teach. Coventina Sep 2014 #12

Pain is a very effective tool - for instilling fear and anger Nitram Sep 2014 #15

Agreed, but try telling that to those who defend hitting kids. Coventina Sep 2014 #17

its frustrating isn't it d_r Sep 2014 #18

"Punishment encourages sneaky behavior". Coventina Sep 2014 #24

If calmly and verbally correcting a child works, then why do parents have to keep doing it? Orrex Sep 2014 #28

the point is d_r Sep 2014 #30

Then why not just say that outright? Orrex Sep 2014 #35

it is harder d_r Sep 2014 #37

Consensus Orrex Sep 2014 #40

There is a parallel discussion in dog training KurtNYC Sep 2014 #8

Exxcellent observations, Kurt. Nitram Sep 2014 #16

I was so glad pipi_k Sep 2014 #20

Thank you for bringing up dog training. Mr.Bill Sep 2014 #23

yup yup. i still hear the old koehler shit. mopinko Sep 2014 #25

It's a lazy way to parent, imho. OneGrassRoot Sep 2014 #9

My mom was a rage-a-holic when we were growing up - we were ALWAYS bullwinkle428 Sep 2014 #10

I don't hit my kids Bettie Sep 2014 #11

HI Bettie strawberries Sep 2014 #19

Yes, are are products of our enviornment Bettie Sep 2014 #22

Yes, I got tired of yelling Califa Sep 2014 #27

I was paddled when I was a child... Whiskeytide Sep 2014 #21

You see, this is what confuses me about the whole discussion.... Moonwalk Sep 2014 #33

That was actually my point. Whiskeytide Sep 2014 #38

"intense, solitary, sessions of self-reflection" cali Sep 2014 #34

You make some very good points... Whiskeytide Sep 2014 #41

So, let's go over this without the paddling and see what we get.... Moonwalk Sep 2014 #42

I didn't steal the comic books... Whiskeytide Sep 2014 #43

i VERY RARELY ever hit any of my kids. mopinko Sep 2014 #26

If Adrian Peterson spanked his kid.. KinMd Sep 2014 #29

I'm talking about spanking, "whuppin'", switching, paddling cali Sep 2014 #31

Violence is ALWAYS failure, period. TheSarcastinator Sep 2014 #32

Yes, What exactly is different between bullying and corporal punishment HereSince1628 Sep 2014 #36

I find it intresting the number of corperal punishment recipiants later say that they... Lancero Sep 2014 #39