six high school seniors wear tshirts spelling out "RAPE?"

[daredtowork]

69. I'm not against gaming

I'm also against stereotyping gamers. I know plenty. I've visited a few MMOs myself.

But I think you're making the mistake in rising to a defense of gamers here when change in the culture is what is called for. This is the same breakthrough moment that had to occur during the #yesallwomen conversation about misogyny. Some men finally got that maybe the way forward was for them to stop yammering long enough about how "not all men are like that" and start listening to what the problems were that needed to be addressed. Their defensiveness was just getting in the way of the problem being fixed. Women know not every man is a misogynist asshole, but men throwing themselves in the way to exclaim they weren't misogynist assholes were getting in the way with dealing with the ones who were.

The same thing is going on here. Obviously not all gamers are rape apologists. But when good gamers feel the misguided need to defend the entire community from the unjust accusation, they just end up protecting the rape apologists and perpetuating the problem. Isn't it possible that the women with this complaint know not all gamers are bad and might be gamers themselves?

All that's required here is for gamers to listen to the problem.