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Showing Original Post only (View all)Spankings are not discipline "Spanking is a sex act" Jillian Keenan at The Slate [View all]
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I realize that many well-meaning parents will disagree with me, but spanking kids is gross. There are a lot of reasons whyits counterproductive and ineffective, for startersbut theres another reason that nobody talks about. Butts are sexual. Thats why the area is one of the few private parts that, along with breasts and genitals, we feel the need to cover with a swimsuit. If a parent saw a teacher patting a childs shoulder, itd be no big deal. But if a parent saw a teacher patting a childs butt, she would (rightly) be very alarmed.
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So I have a question: If its somewhat pedophilic when my adult husband consensually spanks me in a simulated punishment, what should we call it when parents do the same physical thing to actual children in an actual punishment?
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Spanking is a sex act. It has been for a very long timeprobably even longer than its been a parenting choice. A fresco at the Etruscan Tomb of the Whipping, which dates back to approximately 490 B.C., depicts an erotic spanking. In Francum, a 1599 epigram by John Davies, includes one of the most explicit descriptions of sexual masochism in Renaissance poetry. In Victorian Englandwell, there are way too many examples to list them all, so suffice it to say that spanking was a constant focus of Victorian erotica.
I realize that many well-meaning parents will disagree with me, but spanking kids is gross. There are a lot of reasons whyits counterproductive and ineffective, for startersbut theres another reason that nobody talks about. Butts are sexual. Thats why the area is one of the few private parts that, along with breasts and genitals, we feel the need to cover with a swimsuit. If a parent saw a teacher patting a childs shoulder, itd be no big deal. But if a parent saw a teacher patting a childs butt, she would (rightly) be very alarmed.
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So I have a question: If its somewhat pedophilic when my adult husband consensually spanks me in a simulated punishment, what should we call it when parents do the same physical thing to actual children in an actual punishment?
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Spanking is a sex act. It has been for a very long timeprobably even longer than its been a parenting choice. A fresco at the Etruscan Tomb of the Whipping, which dates back to approximately 490 B.C., depicts an erotic spanking. In Francum, a 1599 epigram by John Davies, includes one of the most explicit descriptions of sexual masochism in Renaissance poetry. In Victorian Englandwell, there are way too many examples to list them all, so suffice it to say that spanking was a constant focus of Victorian erotica.
The entire article is very informative - especially about the automatic bodily responses to spanking
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Spankings are not discipline "Spanking is a sex act" Jillian Keenan at The Slate [View all]
intaglio
Sep 2014
OP
So is kissing and hugging, but that doesn't mean its sexual when a parent hugs or kisses his/her kid
aikoaiko
Sep 2014
#1
The case argued in the article is that it doesn't matter if its done for punishment.
aikoaiko
Sep 2014
#7
Rice's 4 year old said his dad has a "whoopin' room." That seems sick to me. n/t
pnwmom
Sep 2014
#53
It depends. If a parent French-kissed his child, it would be sexual and unacceptable.
pnwmom
Sep 2014
#25
It's still a form of affection. Not the polar opposite when done with kids vs adults.
NYC Liberal
Sep 2014
#57
Um, if you and your husband consider it 'somewhat pedophilic' when you
Erich Bloodaxe BSN
Sep 2014
#2
I thought spanking as described in the porn threads here was a violent asssault on a woman
Blue_Adept
Sep 2014
#4
The consensus, most definitely, is that it is not-- as long as it's consensual & btw adults.
Warren DeMontague
Sep 2014
#66
Corporal punishment is about establishing dominance by pain and/or threat of pain
HereSince1628
Sep 2014
#5
It's not that it's analogous to sexual playing. It's that the physical act of spanking
pnwmom
Sep 2014
#26
Actually, you are also incorrect about children not being stimulated during molestation.
pnwmom
Sep 2014
#36
If a 10 year old has been spanked from an earlier age, that doesn't immunize the 10 year old
pnwmom
Sep 2014
#46
I think it is better to defend the truth at the core of the OP, despite its strident title,
pnwmom
Sep 2014
#51
Children are small. How do you know that that area you mention couldn't be stimulated
pnwmom
Sep 2014
#37
One of those obviously daft statements that hint at too much time spent in echo chambers.
Donald Ian Rankin
Sep 2014
#35
I think spanking your kids for discipline is indicative of crappy, lazy parenting generally
Warren DeMontague
Sep 2014
#67