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pnwmom

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49. You are putting words into my mouth.

Wed Sep 24, 2014, 04:34 PM

Sep 2014

I never said that "all spanking is sexual abuse."

I said that a spanking COULD sexually stimulate a child, even though that was not intended by the parent. And I don't think that is a risk any parent should take.

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Spankings are not discipline "Spanking is a sex act" Jillian Keenan at The Slate [View all] intaglio Sep 2014 OP

So is kissing and hugging, but that doesn't mean its sexual when a parent hugs or kisses his/her kid aikoaiko Sep 2014 #1

whole heartedly agree. cali Sep 2014 #3

I've never known anyone who uses kisses and hugs as punishment kcr Sep 2014 #6

The case argued in the article is that it doesn't matter if its done for punishment. aikoaiko Sep 2014 #7

Who spanks their kids for fun? n/t kcr Sep 2014 #8

Back in the day, it was almost an Olympic sport NickB79 Sep 2014 #20

Maybe, but I doubt it was a fun activity for the kids. kcr Sep 2014 #24

Rice's 4 year old said his dad has a "whoopin' room." That seems sick to me. n/t pnwmom Sep 2014 #53

It sure doesn't sound like it was used for hugs and kisses, does it? kcr Sep 2014 #55

I think it's because the vast majority of Americans spank their kids pnwmom Sep 2014 #56

I never understood why some people got thrills Stellar Sep 2014 #45

Agree. The line of reasoning is bullshit. ancianita Sep 2014 #17

+1 Johonny Sep 2014 #21

+1 LittleBlue Sep 2014 #23

It depends. If a parent French-kissed his child, it would be sexual and unacceptable. pnwmom Sep 2014 #25

Heck, I'm grossed out by parents and children kissing on the lips. moriah Sep 2014 #61

I don't do it either. pnwmom Sep 2014 #63

It's still a form of affection. Not the polar opposite when done with kids vs adults. NYC Liberal Sep 2014 #57

Um, if you and your husband consider it 'somewhat pedophilic' when you Erich Bloodaxe BSN Sep 2014 #2

Try reading the post in Slate intaglio Sep 2014 #30

It is an excerpt from an article on Slate, not something the OP wrote. nt tblue37 Sep 2014 #47

I thought spanking as described in the porn threads here was a violent asssault on a woman Blue_Adept Sep 2014 #4

shocker: people here have varied opinions cali Sep 2014 #9

Women spank men too. Erich Bloodaxe BSN Sep 2014 #10

I had brought that up back then as well Blue_Adept Sep 2014 #12

I contest your claim that the DU consensus is cali Sep 2014 #13

The consensus, most definitely, is that it is not-- as long as it's consensual & btw adults. Warren DeMontague Sep 2014 #66

I don't get into it personally. Erich Bloodaxe BSN Sep 2014 #14

Corporal punishment is about establishing dominance by pain and/or threat of pain HereSince1628 Sep 2014 #5

Bull... DavidG_WI Sep 2014 #54

"corporal punishment is the only what to get your point across..." HereSince1628 Sep 2014 #58

That life is... DavidG_WI Sep 2014 #59

Ok, so can you provide the peer reviewed professional paper HereSince1628 Sep 2014 #60

I'm totally against spanking kids. NaturalHigh Sep 2014 #11

I don't buy it... ljm2002 Sep 2014 #15

'sometimes a cigar is just a cigar' leftstreet Sep 2014 #18

Touché... ljm2002 Sep 2014 #19

It's not that it's analogous to sexual playing. It's that the physical act of spanking pnwmom Sep 2014 #26

Welp, I don't spank my kid, but... Adrahil Sep 2014 #16

Well that was dumb Egnever Sep 2014 #22

No, it's common sense. The same act that can sexually stimulate some adults pnwmom Sep 2014 #27

No it is not science, psychology, sexology, or common sense. TM99 Sep 2014 #34

Actually, you are also incorrect about children not being stimulated during molestation. pnwmom Sep 2014 #36

I am not. TM99 Sep 2014 #40

Are you aware that some parents even spank 10 year olds? pnwmom Sep 2014 #41

My training is quite sufficient. TM99 Sep 2014 #44

If a 10 year old has been spanked from an earlier age, that doesn't immunize the 10 year old pnwmom Sep 2014 #46

That's the point. TM99 Sep 2014 #48

You are putting words into my mouth. pnwmom Sep 2014 #49

Hardly. TM99 Sep 2014 #50

I think it is better to defend the truth at the core of the OP, despite its strident title, pnwmom Sep 2014 #51

There is zero truth at the core of this TM99 Sep 2014 #65

So kicking a man in his wedding tackle must also be a sex act? riqster Sep 2014 #28

For some, it is. Google "CBT". moriah Sep 2014 #31

I know-friends are into that. Not my cuppa tea, but hey, consenting adults. riqster Sep 2014 #32

The science in the Slate article I thnk you're referring to is very bad. moriah Sep 2014 #29

Children are small. How do you know that that area you mention couldn't be stimulated pnwmom Sep 2014 #37

As I said before, I wasn't paddled or spanked as a kid -- I was switched. moriah Sep 2014 #39

OMG. How stupid. closeupready Sep 2014 #33

One of those obviously daft statements that hint at too much time spent in echo chambers. Donald Ian Rankin Sep 2014 #35

It's not obviously dafty to the researchers who've studied it. pnwmom Sep 2014 #38

Jillian Keenan has ...issues 951-Riverside Sep 2014 #42

"Until YOU feel better." Tierra_y_Libertad Sep 2014 #43

Thats moronic... DavidG_WI Sep 2014 #52

If boobs and butts are inseparably sexual... LostInAnomie Sep 2014 #62

Might be a winning argument ... GeorgeGist Sep 2014 #64

I think spanking your kids for discipline is indicative of crappy, lazy parenting generally Warren DeMontague Sep 2014 #67