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laundry_queen

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12. I've been a stay at home mom
Fri Apr 13, 2012, 12:24 PM
Apr 2012

and now I'm a single mom of 4 in school full time (I equate that with working time-wise, but I'm lucky I receive enough money from my ex to live frugally and pay for tuition) I can say what I'm doing NOW is harder. And my kids are old enough now that it's much easier.

When i was a stay at home mom with 3 kids 5 and under, I thought I was going to go insane. It WAS a lot of work (especially with an uninvolved spouse). But now that I am in school full time, I CANNOT for the life of me imagine having very young children and working. I can only imagine it would be pure hell trying to do both. My kids are older now (my youngest will start school in the fall) and it's so impossibly harder than being a SAHM. Of course, being single factors in as well. I think it would perhaps be easier to work if there is a supportive spouse where the child rearing is split 50/50 when both parents are at home. Being a single parent and working is like a double whammy.

But yeah, I hate how people are saying being a SAHM is WORK. Of course it is. But you don't think that working mothers don't have to accomplish the EXACT SAME THINGS with a fraction of the time? People seem to think working moms don't do the same things, like their kids are magicially cared for, their house is magically cleaned and the grocery shopping does itself, once they get home from work. LMAO!

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