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R B Garr

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44. Yes, this is a good post. But mostly to your point #4,
Sat Sep 27, 2014, 11:53 PM
Sep 2014

I think women start losing tolerance with the emphasis on physical attractiveness when it becomes an insult to their intelligence. For instance, women learn at an early age the well-worn adage about men being more visual, so it's a given that men will notice women for their physical attributes more frequently than a woman might, (generally speaking, of course). That's where objectification becomes insufferable, and women are definitely subjected to it on a daily basis much more so than men.

Just an anecdote: My SO and I were watching a TV show when there was some movement and dress made by a man that annoyed him to watch (it was a football-y type commercial where one of the men was portrayed unfavorably to him), so he grimaced and reached for the remote to change the channel. I mentioned to him at that time, See that's what women go through all the time -- multiple times every day, they are bombarded with reminders of overt sexuality in the media. He got what I was saying as he experienced that annoyance for himself right in front of me.

Just a couple days later, we pulled up behind a commercial truck for closet installations which featured an attractive blonde woman wrapped in nothing but a towel. I mentioned to him again, Do you need to see a man wrapped in nothing but a towel to sell you a closet organizer system? He agreed, no, he didn't need to see that. But it's so pervasive in the media for women to be featured in sexualized ways that can get really annoying, and for really no reasons at all -- a closet organizer? It gets ridiculous after awhile.

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eHarmony.com? cyberswede Sep 2014 #1
Yes... R B Garr Sep 2014 #10
Well, when you're only SheilaT Sep 2014 #2
Same here. LeftyMom Sep 2014 #3
I admit I went through a phase when I went for the tallest man, R B Garr Sep 2014 #13
The hunterer/gatherer "claptrap" is not supposed to be a conscious choice, but rather an instict. Threedifferentones Sep 2014 #54
My ex was only half an inch taller than I was Warpy Sep 2014 #52
all may be a bit of a generalization drray23 Sep 2014 #4
And then there are tall women who don't care, but frequently encounter shorter men kcr Sep 2014 #5
That was my experience with one in particular R B Garr Sep 2014 #8
One guy in particular jumps out in my memory, too. kcr Sep 2014 #15
I had a 5'5" bf once, and I'm 5'8" shanti Sep 2014 #26
mrs unblock is one inch taller than i am. and we met online. unblock Sep 2014 #6
I met my tall husband when he literally almost tripped over me. Rozlee Sep 2014 #7
There's a point at which "tall" is "too tall". Warren DeMontague Sep 2014 #9
Is 6'3" even very tall any more? cyberswede Sep 2014 #22
I don't know. It seemed tall then, but of course that was in the days of scurvy and sabre toothed Warren DeMontague Sep 2014 #36
I think the average for men is 5'9". Definitely under 6', anyway. R B Garr Sep 2014 #23
I though 6'3' was the average for me. DH1 was 6'8". DH2 was 6'5". freshwest Sep 2014 #37
I could say 6', but it would be a slight exaggeration. Warren DeMontague Sep 2014 #38
Then the shrinking sets in, after a certain age. cyberswede Sep 2014 #64
Taller men get paid and promoted more too. Donald Ian Rankin Sep 2014 #11
Yes, height does play a big part in Presidential politics. R B Garr Sep 2014 #63
Except, you know, us lesbians. nt justiceischeap Sep 2014 #12
... awoke_in_2003 Sep 2014 #25
@ 5'10" I lost that one before it ever started. Tuesday Afternoon Sep 2014 #14
I know what you mean! Being taller than average for a woman R B Garr Sep 2014 #46
These threads always crack me up for a number of reasons. LostInAnomie Sep 2014 #16
Good post. DavidDvorkin Sep 2014 #17
+2 flying rabbit Sep 2014 #18
You forgot #5 whistler162 Sep 2014 #21
I suspect the OP was in response customerserviceguy Sep 2014 #30
I figured as much. LostInAnomie Sep 2014 #33
I am 52, newly separated, and open to just about anything. rufus dog Sep 2014 #47
Been there, done that customerserviceguy Sep 2014 #51
Yes, this is a good post. But mostly to your point #4, R B Garr Sep 2014 #44
Yep, like when someone posts a study that says "food X is bad for you"... Silent3 Sep 2014 #48
What he said jamzrockz Sep 2014 #55
But then it would apply to women too treestar Sep 2014 #65
Since women tend to be shorter than men daredtowork Sep 2014 #19
Maybe men were choosing what they wanted... LostInAnomie Sep 2014 #31
That's what I'm saying daredtowork Sep 2014 #39
True, and it's a social thing treestar Sep 2014 #66
Better to have loved a short than never to have loved a t all HereSince1628 Sep 2014 #20
lol - good for her! cyberswede Sep 2014 #24
Im 6'3" Travis_0004 Sep 2014 #27
Well.. sendero Sep 2014 #28
Yes. Tall women do like tall fellas. Cleita Sep 2014 #29
I'm the exception that proves the rule I guess tularetom Sep 2014 #32
We are to believe an E-harmony study? JEFF9K Sep 2014 #34
I've heard that. Marr Sep 2014 #62
I dated a Lady that was 6' (I'm 6'2") Liked her a lot and then she dropped me for a guy ... BlueJazz Sep 2014 #35
I am a woman 5' 5 inches tall and an athletic build myself. PearliePoo2 Sep 2014 #40
Oh yeah and..... PearliePoo2 Sep 2014 #41
5'6"~5'9" I find men nearer to my height most attractive and I feel comfortable around them. Tikki Sep 2014 #42
Intercourse and osculation... DreamGypsy Sep 2014 #43
My husband is 6'7", and I asked him what it was like to date much shorter women. DebJ Sep 2014 #57
This message was self-deleted by its author WhiteAndNerdy Sep 2014 #45
Somebody has to be able to reach the top cabinets in the kitchen Wella Sep 2014 #49
5'11" dang. neither tall nor short. :( dionysus Sep 2014 #50
And steel teeth are a real turn-on as well. edbermac Sep 2014 #53
Personal anecdote, Seeking Serenity Sep 2014 #56
We have a friend who SAID she was looking for a good steady love in her life. DebJ Sep 2014 #58
At least she eventually acknowledged the truth. Seeking Serenity Sep 2014 #59
Learned a lot at the DU today. tritsofme Sep 2014 #60
Hopefully these bogus studies are Finnish once and for all Orrex Sep 2014 #61
I'm 6'4" WooHoo Chisox08 Sep 2014 #67
I hope the smarter people of DU were able to excoriate this study fully Jamastiene Sep 2014 #68
I was 6' 1" when I first met my wife. Now that I'm 63 years old ... 11 Bravo Sep 2014 #69
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