The little girl whose birth brought "anger, disappointment and fear"

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116. Using a sperm bank is an item where women do get to look and choose as best they can

from a catalogue of males and their character traits, "work", grades, schools, medical history, perhaps "matching" as many characteristics they could find to a "husband" if a couple was having male sterility issues. This company offers a service. These women went into the agency, looked through a catalogue of all of these choices, and chose a certain match that they felt would best fit into their family and the area in which they moved to. Having children and living close to family whom you can trust to help take care of their grandchildren is an important factor for many couples deciding to have children. AND it was only when they called the agency later to reserve sperm for the other wife, so that their children would share the same father biologically, they discovered the agency made a mistake. It is only right for that agency to be sued for their errror. AND it wouldn't matter if the alt sperm donor was another white male, that is NOT what the women chose and paid the service for. They should sue no matter what and be compensated for the errror.

Now, as to the topic of the racial aspect of the situation that they find themselves thrust into; that's a conversation that has broad reaching implications. These women are living in a region of the country that is monolithic in regards to race. Part of that decision to move to this area was due to having familial help in being there for this couple as they raise any child; like most couples decide on. On top of the regular parenting aspects of raising a child in today's America and financial stresses, etc, this couple is a lesbian couple. They are already have certain segments of this country who are still extremely discriminatory toward LGBT persons in general. There are still states that refuse marriage equality, or they don't have anti-discrimantory laws in place to protect against discrimination in regards to work, renting, and being able to see one another in the hospital if one is ill because they aren't considered "family". Now, these two white women living in a white area are raising a bi-racial daughter, whom they say they love (and she looks well taken care of and who couldn't love that precious little one and she is 1/2 biologically one of the mother's daughter), saying, as part of the law suit and lawyer speak as to bring this case to light and award beyond re-couping the initial payment for the sperm donation fees, that their family has been harmed due to this companies neglect because they are having to make special additional arrangements to take proper care of this child. AND I'm sorry, but moving to a diverse community away from perhaps free grandma babysitting, is something they really should do. As well as, be able to provide people in their daughter's life that look like her and whom she can relate to and for the Mom's to ask basic questions about things like doing their daughter's hair.

I think everyone would love to live in an equal society where discrimintions didn't exist and acceptence and love were enough. But y'all have read enough nasty comments from the white- right about black people or hispanic people or LGBT or Muslims; they are nasty and disgusting and these are the people that these women are already having to face due to whom they love as a partner in their lives; now, they've got to raise a bi-racial child along with the roadblocks and nastiness the child would have already had to face just due to having 2 Mom's. If anything, I would hope that this family does choose to create a sister or brother from the same donor so that their daughter would have someone in the family that has the same "father" and who looks like her. That would be something these women should think about doing if they decide to have more children, but after this lawsuit, having that happen isn't very likely.

Also, I don't think $50,000.00 is asking that much for help with costs of any therapy and/ or moves they make into a more diverse community.. Moving costs alone from selling and uprooting one home to move to another region, new jobs, and a new home doesn't see like they are being outrageous in their suit.