The little girl whose birth brought "anger, disappointment and fear"

[BrotherIvan]

136. FWIW I don't normally share personal details about myself on the internet

But because this thread was so full of ignorance, I did. What you are forgetting is that these people went public with the fact that there was a "mistake". The fact that this mother was "angry, disappointed and fearful" about having a biracial child completely refutes your argument. What I am trying to say is that a child needs love, food, shelter, guidance and support. Those are the true necessities. She needs to know that she is loved absolutely and completely for everything she is. If she is lucky enough to have those things--which many, many children do not have--then she will grow up to be a well-adjusted person. If her moms wanted to help her with her African American identity, all the better, but no doubt she will also seek it out later in life if she so chooses. Just doing the best they can and loving her, I'm sure their daughter will love them for it. If they wanted to give their daughter a more diverse experience, they could have done it without the press conferences, without the interviews broadcasting to the world that their daughter was not what they paid for.

Here is just a sample, always with caveats, but the message is there:

Ms Cramblett told NBC that she and her partner had specifically picked a blonde-haired, blue-eyed donor so that the baby would look like her partner, Ms Zinkon.

They didn't choose the donor based on intelligence or medical history, they chose him based on the color of his eyes and skin.

Even simple tasks have become more complicated because Payton is mixed-race, the lawsuit says.
'Payton has hair typical of an African American girl. To get a decent cut, Jennifer must travel to a black neighborhood, far from where she lives, where she is obviously different in appearance, and not overtly welcome,' according to the lawsuit.
Ms Cramblett says she grew up in Scio, Ohio - population 762 - and didn't meet a black person until she attended college. She currently lives in Uniontown, population 2,802, and fears Payton will be the only non-white child in class when the time comes for her to attend school.

Ms Cramblett says her family has difficulty accepting the fact that she is gay and encourage her to hide her sexual orientation when she is around them.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2778009/I-t-let-family-White-lesbian-mother-inseminated-black-man-s-semen-sperm-bank-mixup-says-wanted-blonde-hair-blue-eyed-baby.html#ixzz3F7vgcryU

It looks like there are plenty of problems within the family, racism and homophobia being big ones. So obviously, these moms think that having a biracial child is a much bigger problem than it is. Because their daughter "can't hide her race" at the family gatherings of bigots. This is the real issue. I support them suing the clinic for malpractice, but I do not support them making their daughter--and she will--feel unwanted or unloved because she is half black.