The little girl whose birth brought "anger, disappointment and fear"

[BrotherIvan]

140. What you are saying is what we hope all parents who truly loved their children would say

Once you commit to having a child, you are her parent, whether she be special needs or different or biracial or whatever. For better or for worse. You are the main source of love and care for all of their childhood. I know parents who have had to quit their jobs and go nearly bankrupt to take care of their children. People have to move because of bullies or other circumstances. People make sacrifices for their children because that is what you sign up for. I can't imagine how awful this little girl will feel when she grows up.

In my post #136 in this thread, I linked to an article that shows there IS a lot more going on. The mother grew up in a town that was all white and didn't meet a black person until she was in college; now she has to travel to a black neighborhood to get her daughter's hair cut and that is one of the big hardships (because she can't learn how to cut her daughter's own hair?). She and her partner specifically chose a donor that had blond hair and blue eyes so the child could pass as their own, now she can't because "she can't hide her race." And her family encourages her to hide the fact that she is gay, so I'm sure they have made similar comments about her daughter.

I get it. It's not a walk in the park and not what they signed up for with the clinic. But they are definitely not putting their daughter and her feelings first. That is what I object to. They are acting like love and care isn't enough, as if being even half black means you are a different species or something. They brought all of this down upon themselves when they stood in front of a camera and spoke into a microphone about how a black child has crushed their dreams. If this was something where the court filings were leaked, that would be a somewhat different story. And if the only thing that came out of her mouth was "we are suing for malpractice but my daughter is perfect in every way" I would not be commenting at all.