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[laundry_queen]

32. 2008-2010

2008 first my dog of 13 years died and immediately after there were multiple deaths in the family really close together. Then, after coming back from the last funeral, my husband told me he wasn't sure he wanted to stay married. 2009, I was physically sick the entire year, flu that landed me in the hospital, severe strep, then some mysterious rash on my upper torso that wouldn't go away, then multiple bouts with norovirus. Then my husband moved out so I was a single parent - and sick. I found out my husband had nearly put us into bankruptcy and hadn't been paying the bills. My car was repossessed and I didn't even know we were still paying anything on it (he had told me it was paid off). Then anxiety issues hit and I nearly had a full blown nervous breakdown. 2010 it was confirmed to me that my husband had been cheating on my since our youngest was a newborn at least. So I moved away with the kids and I had to start school after being a stay at home mom for 12 years (since I had no education, other than a year of science), and leave my kids in childcare, which is something I swore I would never do. I moved in with my parents, who promised me the moon (they promised to pay tuition, and long term place to stay, they promised co-signing a mortgage when I was ready to move out, they promised to pay for activities for the kids and take them, they promised to be involved with the kids, they promised me all new furniture when I moved out) then reneged on every single promise and kicked me out just as school was starting f/t. I had no money (because I had to pay tuition that my parents had promised to pay) but I had to find a place to rent. My ex was the one who helped me out at that point.

Those 3 years were the worst. Everyone I thought cared for me demonstrated that they didn't give a shit. I went from thinking I had a family who was supportive to realizing my parents were narcissists and my ex was a sociopath.

Things are so much better now. It was a struggle but now I have a degree and a job and my own home. I wouldn't want to go through those 3 years again for anything.