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Ms. Toad

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80. I'm saying that reacting to pretty extreme police brutality

Wed Oct 8, 2014, 05:14 PM

Oct 2014

perpetrated against a young man in his own home with the suggestion that his parents ought to have introduced him to the neighbors is odd.

I can't imagine anyone reacting that way had the police perpetrated the same acts perpetrated against a white foster child in that manner - yet it is a very prevalent reaction in this thread. You were one of many who reacted this way. I'm suggesting that you (and anyone else who reacted that way) stop and consider why - and honestly reflect on whether you would have reacted that way had the child been white.

Some of my best friends/family/etc. are {XYZ} doesn't provide immunity against reacting from a position of privilege our skin/gender/sexual orientation/etc. gives us. And recognizing that reaction is one of the early steps to changing it.

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Black Teen Pepper-Sprayed By Cops After Entering His White Foster Parents� Home [View all] kpete Oct 2014 OP

lawsuits need to start getting paid out of police budgets snooper2 Oct 2014 #1

They need to be paid out of the cops' pockets. FlatStanley Oct 2014 #34

Exactly! gopiscrap Oct 2014 #52

Exactly the thought I had. Jackpine Radical Oct 2014 #86

Awesome Idea billhicks76 Oct 2014 #74

Even when the police are wrong, they rationalize, Trillo Oct 2014 #2

This message was self-deleted by its author politicat Oct 2014 #3

You didn't watch the interview, did you? MohRokTah Oct 2014 #4

thanks MohRokTah kpete Oct 2014 #5

Yeah, the kid doesn't like having his picture taken, and his foster parents respected that. MohRokTah Oct 2014 #7

Like how you embarrassed yourself: ChisolmTrailDem Oct 2014 #45

No, because I have JavaScript disabled. No video. (That's iOS's workaround to Adblock.) politicat Oct 2014 #51

Or it could be the neighbor justgamma Oct 2014 #6

This! FlatStanley Oct 2014 #39

I think some people don't believe that really goes on. Mariana Oct 2014 #56

^^^^^this^^^^^ my thought exactly azurnoir Oct 2014 #64

+1 Exactly- hoping they shoot first no doubt Victim lived there for a year!! Get real lunasun Oct 2014 #83

So it's the parents fault? GGJohn Oct 2014 #8

he lived with them for a year...and the neighbors never SAW him? noiretextatique Oct 2014 #9

You are making assumptions that the family was in the neighborhood for a year. Ms. Toad Oct 2014 #22

oh sorry...they said they had him for a year noiretextatique Oct 2014 #89

Yeah, blame the victim and his parents. Good job. AtheistCrusader Oct 2014 #13

I had a neighbor once... berni_mccoy Oct 2014 #17

One of the foster parents in our family has a wall of pictures of ALL the foster children she has jwirr Oct 2014 #18

Would you say the same thing about their white children, Ms. Toad Oct 2014 #24

That makes a difference. The time line. I do not understand what you mean regarding the color of jwirr Oct 2014 #32

The only thing you said about this family Ms. Toad Oct 2014 #60

I do not know what my reaction would be. But if you are calling me racist - you could not be more jwirr Oct 2014 #62

I'm saying that reacting to pretty extreme police brutality Ms. Toad Oct 2014 #80

Your relative is an exception. You got good people in her. politicat Oct 2014 #53

Thank you. The kids also come back to visit with her. I think we are doing better with finding good jwirr Oct 2014 #55

It would never occur to me, as a parent, noamnety Oct 2014 #88

How many white family are require to do all the regiments you listed?? Farmbrook Oct 2014 #25

"The boy"? Seriously? riqster Oct 2014 #27

Apparently that poster didn't read even the OP title JimDandy Oct 2014 #38

I love blaming the victim. FlatStanley Oct 2014 #40

Just another day in America, sadly. marmar Oct 2014 #10

Time to bankrupt these municipalities. nt BumRushDaShow Oct 2014 #11

No! Bankrupt the cops. FlatStanley Oct 2014 #43

Unfortunately most have "immunity" in civil suits. nt BumRushDaShow Oct 2014 #47

Really? I didn't know that. FlatStanley Oct 2014 #48

Most government employes (local, state, federal) are immune from prosecution BumRushDaShow Oct 2014 #61

Thank you for that civics lesson. I appreciate it. FlatStanley Oct 2014 #67

No problem! BumRushDaShow Oct 2014 #71

The problem goes deeper than that Blue_Tires Oct 2014 #49

Law enforcement is insane, racist, and out of control etherealtruth Oct 2014 #12

These idiots are doing this in small town America too.... Spitfire of ATJ Oct 2014 #23

Sadly, you are spot on! etherealtruth Oct 2014 #28

He "would not follow orders"?? Is this a new law I've been unaware of, that we must OBEY?? WinkyDink Oct 2014 #14

"refused to follow orders" Blue_Tires Oct 2014 #54

I've heard it called "resisting without violence". It's BS. savalez Oct 2014 #73

Contempt of cop..... blackspade Oct 2014 #77

Wondering if the cops pulled up in a tank. Spitfire of ATJ Oct 2014 #15

If the kid was there a year you'd think the neighbor would have known by now Catherine Vincent Oct 2014 #16

They moved to the neighborhood in July. Ms. Toad Oct 2014 #21

4 months seems long enough. savalez Oct 2014 #79

First, the person I was responding to claimed they had been there a year. Ms. Toad Oct 2014 #82

True but savalez Oct 2014 #84

I don't think the neighbor should have called the police. Ms. Toad Oct 2014 #93

I agree. savalez Oct 2014 #95

Wake County also has an active real estate market Bad Thoughts Oct 2014 #26

The busy body also needs to be sued FlatStanley Oct 2014 #37

There should be charges for misuse of 911 and police malpractive. eom. Bad Thoughts Oct 2014 #41

Perfect! FlatStanley Oct 2014 #46

My guess is that the neighbor knew exactly who the child was when they made the call. nt ladjf Oct 2014 #42

ASSume and attack VA_Jill Oct 2014 #19

Again, cops resorting to violence when it is not necessary at all Man from Pickens Oct 2014 #20

Cops were issued mace and pepper spray and tazers so they wouldn't have to use clubs and guns... Spitfire of ATJ Oct 2014 #29

This neighbor needs a life damnedifIknow Oct 2014 #30

I am so glad that more and more of these incidents are getting reported. vlyons Oct 2014 #31

There is no "right" thing to do in these situations. nolabear Oct 2014 #33

+1 Blue_Tires Oct 2014 #58

when I read the part about "refused to follow orders" I imagined that the orders were: KurtNYC Oct 2014 #72

"Cure my rage and fear or suffer the consequences!" nolabear Oct 2014 #76

damnedifIknow is right regarding the neighbor Android3.14 Oct 2014 #35

Link has info that the family moved to the neighborhood in July JimDandy Oct 2014 #44

It's North Carolina. FlatStanley Oct 2014 #36

Ignorant remark. The South is not one homogeneous region... ms liberty Oct 2014 #50

Just a few points: FlatStanley Oct 2014 #70

So which states in the South are not full of racist, ignorant "Christians"? jeff47 Oct 2014 #85

Fuquay-Varina, North Carolina jberryhill Oct 2014 #59

Hahahaha! Well played. FlatStanley Oct 2014 #68

Wonder how he got outside the house, where police power to act is greater? n/t Orsino Oct 2014 #57

So a person can't be in their home unless their picture is on the wall? drm604 Oct 2014 #63

no, they pepper sprayed the kid, because the cops are racist. nt Javaman Oct 2014 #65

That kid was terrorized. Bush started this "be very afraid of your neighbors" crap. Dont call me Shirley Oct 2014 #66

To be fair, Bush did not start the paranoia MurrayDelph Oct 2014 #78

Agreed. Dont call me Shirley Oct 2014 #90

This is horrible. Enthusiast Oct 2014 #69

Way to go thugs in blue! blackspade Oct 2014 #75

Another white family experiencing mackerel Oct 2014 #81

So, it's no longer "driving while black" or "walking in a white neighborhood while black" or raven mad Oct 2014 #87

White Privliege...are people still blind as to what that means? Rex Oct 2014 #91

We have a new "crime": Being Resident While Black In A White Neighborhood friendly_iconoclast Oct 2014 #92

feeling safer yet? eom whereisjustice Oct 2014 #94

Are we angry yet? herding cats Oct 2014 #96

If this had been Albuquerque, NM ... left-of-center2012 Oct 2014 #97