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UglyGreed

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10. My father died

Reply to UglyGreed (Original post)

Tue Oct 21, 2014, 11:41 AM

Oct 2014

when I was 21 years old and I still carry the pain at the age of 49. I remember my mother blaming me for his drinking at the age of 6. I was born way later than my siblings and of course I was the prefect candidate for being the scapegoat.

This is probably why it bothers me so much to be labeled by doctors and I put this out there so the people here on DU could see why I'm a jerk at times.

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The Role of the Family Scapegoat in Dysfunctional Families (trigger warning) [View all] UglyGreed Oct 2014 OP

Triggered. n/t PeoViejo Oct 2014 #1

+1 Le Taz Hot Oct 2014 #2

Count me in too. Mnemosyne Oct 2014 #4

Me too. murielm99 Oct 2014 #9

Ironically, Dubya is the Bush family's pet scapegoat Blue Owl Oct 2014 #3

Hate to admit this but this is why I stopped seeing children in my therapy practice. nolabear Oct 2014 #5

Been there, been that black sheep.... Gumboot Oct 2014 #6

also known as the "identified patient" in family systems theory. grasswire Oct 2014 #7

I wasn't necessarily the "black sheep" but my one brother is "the chosen one".. yourout Oct 2014 #8

My father died UglyGreed Oct 2014 #10

I need to stop reading some articles/threads. ladyVet Oct 2014 #11

Explains the contempt Obama's feeling right now lindysalsagal Oct 2014 #12