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In reply to the discussion: Stay-at-Home Mom Facing Divorce? Don't Expect Alimony - Forbes article [View all]Darkhawk32
(2,100 posts)53. My cheating, abusive ex-wife tried to get alimony.
Thank goodness the judge looked at her like the slime she is.
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Stay-at-Home Mom Facing Divorce? Don't Expect Alimony - Forbes article [View all]
FLPanhandle
Oct 2014
OP
Articles Reveal The Perils Of Stay At Home Moms. In 3 Words. In Such Arrangement "You're Screwed."
TheMastersNemesis
Oct 2014
#1
I'd like to see the ideologic background of these judges. Is this trend only a big victory
Hortensis
Oct 2014
#13
Perhaps, but I think mostly women tend to be more clear eyed about, and certainly less
Hortensis
Oct 2014
#19
I'm a stay at home mom who hasn't worked in 20 years. I would hope I would get a chance to at least
liberal_at_heart
Oct 2014
#4
You might hope for it, but in many regions most job training programs were canceled during the
Hortensis
Oct 2014
#18
There is no guarantee for anybody. I refuse to let those on here who hate the idea of being married
liberal_at_heart
Oct 2014
#47
Staying home to take care of your kids can be a real detriment to your career,
Sheldon Cooper
Oct 2014
#5
Even while married, I worked full-time at night and took care of the kids during the day
Darkhawk32
Oct 2014
#78
When I worked in state government I noticed we hired many women with no recent work history.
Shrike47
Oct 2014
#9
I'm wondering how many of those enabling jobs might have been canceled by right wing budget cuts...?
Hortensis
Oct 2014
#16
"Nearly every state is revisiting its laws on alimony — or “maintenance” — in divorce cases"
KamaAina
Oct 2014
#12
A prenuptual agreement should be mandatory for the state to recognise a marriage.
Donald Ian Rankin
Oct 2014
#21
In life we all take some risk and sometimes good things happen and sometimes bad things
liberal_at_heart
Oct 2014
#25
It's certainly not a bad idea for everybody to be aware of the divorce and alimony laws in their
liberal_at_heart
Oct 2014
#30
I doubt anyone agreed to the arrangement of supporting anyone after divorce.
LostInAnomie
Oct 2014
#38
Planned or not, the divorce happens. How is it right for one to leave the other hanging
kcr
Oct 2014
#119
You have not answered why the working spouse doesn't have to face any consequences
kcr
Oct 2014
#144
Because one partner didn't voluntarily choose to remove themselves from the workforce.
LostInAnomie
Oct 2014
#220
It is not implicit that one will be left in poverty because of that lack of buildup in work history
kcr
Oct 2014
#230
That's an excellent summation of an argument you just made up in your head.
LostInAnomie
Oct 2014
#170
part of that SAHP/worker bargain is the SAHP is tying retirement into the future of the worker.
seabeyond
Oct 2014
#172
here is the thing lost, and i am gonna actually take the time to spell it out the best i can.
seabeyond
Oct 2014
#180
no he isnt. cause the little ones have gotten on each side lifting the big one up....
seabeyond
Oct 2014
#190
just about there. not quite. actually, i am not the fan of maintenance/alimony.
seabeyond
Oct 2014
#236
Even with near equal salaries, support can be up to 25% of a person's net income.
Darkhawk32
Oct 2014
#64
In some cases, it's NOT necessary. Sorry, child support should not be any parent's right of passage
Darkhawk32
Oct 2014
#80
remember that old saying you'd never die wishing you'd spent more time at the office?
Skittles
Oct 2014
#58
So the men that used to be in their life should be on the hook for how long as a result? ;)
Darkhawk32
Oct 2014
#65
If the man doesn't want to be on the hook, don't have a wife that stays home to raise his kids. n/t
kcr
Oct 2014
#69
So the wife has no control over her decisions and therefore is expunged of any personal choice she..
Darkhawk32
Oct 2014
#73
Oh, so men are forced to marry and have stay at home wives? They have no say in this?
kcr
Oct 2014
#74
So women are incapable of making their own decisions or having a thought in their brain?
Darkhawk32
Oct 2014
#76
Nice to know you think they can be tossed aside like garbage and left on the street.
kcr
Oct 2014
#79
I'm bitter because I don't think a husband should be on the hook forever (or near forever)
Darkhawk32
Oct 2014
#109
They are almost never on the hook forever. This is a nonexistent problem being solved.
kcr
Oct 2014
#110
I think in most cases individual circumstances and behavior outweigh any stereotypes
bhikkhu
Oct 2014
#165
So how did you react when your husband ordered you out of the house and into paid work?
lumberjack_jeff
Oct 2014
#176
because you gave nothing in the partnership when you were SAHP and your wife worked? really?
seabeyond
Oct 2014
#181
O k ... . So? right there puts you on a level playing field for dividing assets, right?
seabeyond
Oct 2014
#184
i asked you, that yes, you gave as much as she gave, in this partnership. at this point,
seabeyond
Oct 2014
#187
twice now, you still did not answer a simple question. because things are not equal at that point,
seabeyond
Oct 2014
#191
so... reality does not matter, you have your position and unequal works for you.
seabeyond
Oct 2014
#195
for you to define is as slavery, really does not put you in a good light. i know you are
seabeyond
Oct 2014
#198
Since we are in a thread about divorce, I would assume you would be aware that it exists.
kcr
Oct 2014
#212
Because equality! and self determination! I am woman, hear me roar... for alimony! n/t
lumberjack_jeff
Oct 2014
#175
What about the determination of men? As I've asked before. Who made them marry stay at home wives?
kcr
Oct 2014
#202
Why should he? He was rolling in money. Don't you think his young adult kids would care
pnwmom
Oct 2014
#140
wrong answer. an adult is needed, but then you know that. you just like to sit with your
seabeyond
Oct 2014
#166
Women's issues to you is women being protected from accepting responsibility
davidn3600
Oct 2014
#178
Why are the men/working partner protected from the same decision? Why no responsibility for them?
kcr
Oct 2014
#204
how does a husband benefit with a wife staying at home? seriously? if you can actually ask that
seabeyond
Oct 2014
#237
of course there are bad bad women. i am sorry i did not put that forefront in each
seabeyond
Oct 2014
#201
The author cites a couple cases known to one attorney. Not exactly stellar research.
WinkyDink
Oct 2014
#206