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In reply to the discussion: Stay-at-Home Mom Facing Divorce? Don't Expect Alimony - Forbes article [View all]kcr
(15,313 posts)138. Are people forced to marry stay at home spouses?
Your english is fine. Your skills at dodging questions not so much. It's obvious why you don't want to answer. You might as well come out with it.
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Stay-at-Home Mom Facing Divorce? Don't Expect Alimony - Forbes article [View all]
FLPanhandle
Oct 2014
OP
Articles Reveal The Perils Of Stay At Home Moms. In 3 Words. In Such Arrangement "You're Screwed."
TheMastersNemesis
Oct 2014
#1
I'd like to see the ideologic background of these judges. Is this trend only a big victory
Hortensis
Oct 2014
#13
Perhaps, but I think mostly women tend to be more clear eyed about, and certainly less
Hortensis
Oct 2014
#19
I'm a stay at home mom who hasn't worked in 20 years. I would hope I would get a chance to at least
liberal_at_heart
Oct 2014
#4
You might hope for it, but in many regions most job training programs were canceled during the
Hortensis
Oct 2014
#18
There is no guarantee for anybody. I refuse to let those on here who hate the idea of being married
liberal_at_heart
Oct 2014
#47
Staying home to take care of your kids can be a real detriment to your career,
Sheldon Cooper
Oct 2014
#5
Even while married, I worked full-time at night and took care of the kids during the day
Darkhawk32
Oct 2014
#78
When I worked in state government I noticed we hired many women with no recent work history.
Shrike47
Oct 2014
#9
I'm wondering how many of those enabling jobs might have been canceled by right wing budget cuts...?
Hortensis
Oct 2014
#16
"Nearly every state is revisiting its laws on alimony — or “maintenance” — in divorce cases"
KamaAina
Oct 2014
#12
A prenuptual agreement should be mandatory for the state to recognise a marriage.
Donald Ian Rankin
Oct 2014
#21
In life we all take some risk and sometimes good things happen and sometimes bad things
liberal_at_heart
Oct 2014
#25
It's certainly not a bad idea for everybody to be aware of the divorce and alimony laws in their
liberal_at_heart
Oct 2014
#30
I doubt anyone agreed to the arrangement of supporting anyone after divorce.
LostInAnomie
Oct 2014
#38
Planned or not, the divorce happens. How is it right for one to leave the other hanging
kcr
Oct 2014
#119
You have not answered why the working spouse doesn't have to face any consequences
kcr
Oct 2014
#144
Because one partner didn't voluntarily choose to remove themselves from the workforce.
LostInAnomie
Oct 2014
#220
It is not implicit that one will be left in poverty because of that lack of buildup in work history
kcr
Oct 2014
#230
That's an excellent summation of an argument you just made up in your head.
LostInAnomie
Oct 2014
#170
part of that SAHP/worker bargain is the SAHP is tying retirement into the future of the worker.
seabeyond
Oct 2014
#172
here is the thing lost, and i am gonna actually take the time to spell it out the best i can.
seabeyond
Oct 2014
#180
no he isnt. cause the little ones have gotten on each side lifting the big one up....
seabeyond
Oct 2014
#190
just about there. not quite. actually, i am not the fan of maintenance/alimony.
seabeyond
Oct 2014
#236
Even with near equal salaries, support can be up to 25% of a person's net income.
Darkhawk32
Oct 2014
#64
In some cases, it's NOT necessary. Sorry, child support should not be any parent's right of passage
Darkhawk32
Oct 2014
#80
remember that old saying you'd never die wishing you'd spent more time at the office?
Skittles
Oct 2014
#58
So the men that used to be in their life should be on the hook for how long as a result? ;)
Darkhawk32
Oct 2014
#65
If the man doesn't want to be on the hook, don't have a wife that stays home to raise his kids. n/t
kcr
Oct 2014
#69
So the wife has no control over her decisions and therefore is expunged of any personal choice she..
Darkhawk32
Oct 2014
#73
Oh, so men are forced to marry and have stay at home wives? They have no say in this?
kcr
Oct 2014
#74
So women are incapable of making their own decisions or having a thought in their brain?
Darkhawk32
Oct 2014
#76
Nice to know you think they can be tossed aside like garbage and left on the street.
kcr
Oct 2014
#79
I'm bitter because I don't think a husband should be on the hook forever (or near forever)
Darkhawk32
Oct 2014
#109
They are almost never on the hook forever. This is a nonexistent problem being solved.
kcr
Oct 2014
#110
I think in most cases individual circumstances and behavior outweigh any stereotypes
bhikkhu
Oct 2014
#165
So how did you react when your husband ordered you out of the house and into paid work?
lumberjack_jeff
Oct 2014
#176
because you gave nothing in the partnership when you were SAHP and your wife worked? really?
seabeyond
Oct 2014
#181
O k ... . So? right there puts you on a level playing field for dividing assets, right?
seabeyond
Oct 2014
#184
i asked you, that yes, you gave as much as she gave, in this partnership. at this point,
seabeyond
Oct 2014
#187
twice now, you still did not answer a simple question. because things are not equal at that point,
seabeyond
Oct 2014
#191
so... reality does not matter, you have your position and unequal works for you.
seabeyond
Oct 2014
#195
for you to define is as slavery, really does not put you in a good light. i know you are
seabeyond
Oct 2014
#198
Since we are in a thread about divorce, I would assume you would be aware that it exists.
kcr
Oct 2014
#212
Because equality! and self determination! I am woman, hear me roar... for alimony! n/t
lumberjack_jeff
Oct 2014
#175
What about the determination of men? As I've asked before. Who made them marry stay at home wives?
kcr
Oct 2014
#202
Why should he? He was rolling in money. Don't you think his young adult kids would care
pnwmom
Oct 2014
#140
wrong answer. an adult is needed, but then you know that. you just like to sit with your
seabeyond
Oct 2014
#166
Women's issues to you is women being protected from accepting responsibility
davidn3600
Oct 2014
#178
Why are the men/working partner protected from the same decision? Why no responsibility for them?
kcr
Oct 2014
#204
how does a husband benefit with a wife staying at home? seriously? if you can actually ask that
seabeyond
Oct 2014
#237
of course there are bad bad women. i am sorry i did not put that forefront in each
seabeyond
Oct 2014
#201
The author cites a couple cases known to one attorney. Not exactly stellar research.
WinkyDink
Oct 2014
#206