Man fights $30k child support, says kid not his

[TorchTheWitch]

8. he should have paid child support

When a man accepts a child as theirs and takes care of them as their father biology or not they ARE the child's father. Frankly, any man that believes a child is theirs and acts as their father is a shallow shit for suddenly no longer caring about the child when they find out that it isn't biologically theirs.

The OP case is entirely different. The man never knew of the child and the child is biologically not his. The child's mother also takes full blame in that she could only get welfare if the father of the child was identified by name (which is absolutely idiotic). In desperation she said she used his name in order to receive welfare but has never acknowledged him as the father and is trying to help him now in being absolved of any responsibility.

The state dropped the child support money they were claiming he owed but still want him to pay several thousand dollars for her receiving welfare by using his name in order to get it. That's also crazy since he had nothing to do with her using his name. If any money is owed to the state for welfare benefits received fraudulently then she should be the one responsible since she was the only one involved in fraudulently using his name.

But, it's crazy and woman shaming that she had to identify an individual man as the child's father in order to get welfare benefits in the first place. What if she became pregnant by a man who she only knew their first name or by rape by a stranger or just had sex with more than one man during the time she likely conceived? What the hell does that have to do with needing welfare? The child still exists and she still is in need of the funds regardless. The only reason for this father naming requirement is to shame women just as deserving of welfare as any woman that can name who the father is, and either way the child still exists. It not only punishes the woman for not knowing who the child's father is but also punishes a completely innocent child that needs care that the mother can't give without the welfare aid.

According to the video in the linked piece it was discovered that he never received a summons about the case all those years ago because the person delivering the summons said that he tried to serve it but that the guy refused to sign in when in fact the guy was in jail at that time, so the server lied and never tried to serve it on him at all.

Welfare requirements piss me off anyway. People like myself that our out of funds, can't get any financial help from family or friends and can't find a job can't get welfare without either being pregnant, have underage children, have an alcohol or drug problem. That's what's required in my state. Us responsible folk that are sober, drug free, and childless/not pregnant just get kicked to the curb and starve in a cardboard box in an alley losing everything they own and when they only need benefits until they get back on their feet. I'm a hair away from starving in a cardboard box myself if I can't get some kind of financial assistance from someone since my new job can't give me any shifts until possibly some time in November or only an occasional shift if someone calls out.

It particularly pisses me off that my crazy next door neighbors have been getting welfare for years when the husband has good paying construction work, and they still bum stuff off of their neighbors like me who are in much worse financial straits and can't get welfare... cigarettes, toilet paper, diaper money when their youngest wasn't potty trained, dog food, whatever - it's always something. And to top it off I recently learned that for all the years they've been living next door they haven't paid a single mortgage payment. Their mortgage company went bust right after they bought the house, and whatever company got their mortgage obviously doesn't seem to know they exist. So they ended up with a virtually free house they've not had to pay for for about 8 years now. People like that fraudulently getting welfare that don't need it is a slap in the face to people like me and all the people that need welfare and can't get it or can only get it like that poor woman who had to fraudulently put in someone's name as the father of her child when it shouldn't matter a damn if she knew who the father was or not.