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In reply to the discussion: WTF? Alan Grayson's estranged wife is getting food stamps [View all]Erich Bloodaxe BSN
(14,733 posts)If you're claiming that the only one who had any input into decisions as to having kids was the guy and he then forced the mother to stay at home and take care of them, then yeah, 'the working parent decided it'. If both partners actually were partners, and not some caricature of 'Father Knows Best' out of the 50s, then both partners decided it together.
You can't simply allow one of them to wash their hands of responsibility for the decisions made unless you really are claiming it was a one-sided relationship and one partner was dominated by the other.
I certainly would like for people to do what they can to help out their former partners, heck, it would be great if they could even work through their differences and stay together. But I'm not going to buy into the worldview that women have no agency to make their own decisions, and should be tied to former partners forever, even if only financially. That's a Rightwing worldview.
On the left, the response should be 'strengthen the social safety net'. If anyone, including an ex-wife (or ex-husband), is unable to afford to live with dignity, help them to do so, and help them learn skills and find employment that will let them not only live with dignity, but even live better than whatever the safety net provides.