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In reply to the discussion: WTF? Alan Grayson's estranged wife is getting food stamps [View all]Erich Bloodaxe BSN
(14,733 posts)'One isn't forced to have a SAHP'. But then you turn around and proclaim that it's only fair that IF you decide to be one, you should forever after be financially supported by your ex.
Are you forced into being a SAHP or not? If you're forced into it, then yes, you deserve some sort of 'equitable settlement' for being forced labour for some period of time, although I would still argue that it should not extend into perpetuity, but should be a single settlement that takes into account the length of time you were essentially slave labour.
If you were NOT forced into being a SAHP, but made the decision, then I don't see why you deserve to continue to get a paycheck after you're no longer doing the work you did as a 'SAHP'.
Your idea of 'fairness' is that one one person should continue to have to provide the same benefits of marriage to the other person, while the reverse is not true. And no matter how many times you throw in the word 'destitute' nothing changes. That marriage should be a winning lottery ticket for one person after a divorce, while the other is forced to continue to pay and pay and pay while getting nothing in return after the marriage ends.