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In reply to the discussion: WTF? Alan Grayson's estranged wife is getting food stamps [View all]PDJane
(10,103 posts)If you choose to say at home with your children, if you choose to have four or seven or nineteen children, and if you don't wish to work, that's your choice. You have the right to make that decision, and you have the right not to be looked down on for making that decision. On the other hand, you can't then blame the children and her 'domestic slavery' on Grayson.
Please don't try to tell me that she didn't know the divorce was final. That is a very obvious condition. She would have received paperwork to tell her so. She would have been served with those documents if her estranged husband had started the procedure. No papers, no procedure. She wanted to marry Grayson, and did. You can't blame Grayson for the fact that they aren't legally married or for the fact that she apparently lied to him about her marital status.
It is the perfect innocence routine, the one that says that the divorce is his problem, and I didn't have anything to do with the paperwork, there was a mistake somewhere. No. Just no. Moreover, accusing Grayson of domestic abuse is iffy. Someone has to support that allegation, and so far no-one has. Believe me, it's been my experience that there are people who will testify to abuse if there is even a hint of it.
Do I think that Grayson is an innocent? No. Do I think he abused his wife? I don't have any evidence that he did, no. Do I think his wife is a perfect innocent, a naif? Um. Well, no. Do I even think such a state is desirable? Sigh. No.
Nor do I have any evidence that her condition is a result of anything that Grayson did to her, nor is there any evidence to say that's the case.
I really want to know who is busy bringing this woman into the public eye, and why. I do think she can be manipulated, and I really do suspect that there is someone doing so.