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In reply to the discussion: WTF? Alan Grayson's estranged wife is getting food stamps [View all]PDJane
(10,103 posts)There is paperwork involved with getting married and with getting unmarried. No divorce goes through without them, and someone has to initiate that paperwork.
You cannot get married or unmarried in a first world country without some kind of ceremony and the incumbent paperwork. It doesn't happen on its own. At the very least, a phone call to the ex would have been in order. The fact that there was secrecy around that paperwork when the divorce happened tells me that she knew that she wasn't single...and didn't want Grayson to know that she lied. You don't just assume that an ex is going to do the divorce thing and there doesn't have to be any contact with you for that to go through.
No one wanders around with their head that far in the clouds. You can't blame Grayson for everything.