You have stated clearly what, in my view, is the crux of the problem. But don't expect much understanding or appreciation of it here on DU (as you've already noted).
Democrats have, almost entirely, themselves to blame for this state of affairs. To put this in the context of family dynamics: If you are abusive to those who care about you, i.e., your spouse or your children, then you have only yourself to blame if you end up living on the street, homeless.
I'm a registered Democrat. Like you, I voted mostly for Democrats yesterday. But there were two judges running for reelection, one for the Court of Appeals and the other for a county judgeship. I have known both of these individuals for many years. Yes, the office of judge is non-partisan, but I know both candidates' party affiliation is Republican.
Even so, I was proud to bubble-in their names (although they both were running unopposed and would have won, in any case). Both of these people are, in my view, moral, honest and intelligent individuals. And this is important to me. Undying loyalty to any one party is a dead end road, IMO. Especially if that party knows you have nowhere else to go. Why should they NOT abuse you if that's the case.
Much more I'd like to say, but I'll save it for later; I have to get ready for work.
BTW, I'm the person who asked about your ironically creative username (a nurse named "bloodaxe"? Yikes! 
). I hope you've been able to find useful employment.
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