When a Student Confides a Rape, Should a Professor Have to Report It?

[moriah]

127. The way rape apologists always refer to victims as "accusers", never "victims".

It irks the hell out of me. Sure, there are people who make false accusations, who make real victims lives a living hell because it CAN be so damned difficult to prove.

In my case, the only attempt that was made was a recorded phone call, which I told them he wouldn't fall for. I was willing to wear a wire like a friend of mine did to get her stepfather who raped her behind bars, but the cops wouldn't let me, saying it'd look bad that I was willing to meet him to a jury. Or they just couldn't spare the officer to sit in the parking lot and listen, I don't know which. I wanted it to be a public place anyway, because I *did* feel uncomfortable being near him. But emails and texts where he admitted it weren't enough for the prosecutor.

But unless a rapist either admits it on tape or leaves evidence behind, it's nearly impossible to prove that rape occurred. They always say the sex was consensual. He even said, after I woke up during the act and fled his bedroom, but was too drunk to leave and didn't know what to do (now I would have knocked on other apartment doors screaming assault, but I was in shock after waking up to being raped), that he felt like a rapist. Wish I could have gotten that on tape.

But instead of believing victims, rape apologists call them "accusers" instead, say that maybe the victim was just drunk, not passed out, and regretted it, or wanted revenge, or a thousand other reasons why the person can't be a rapist.