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cali

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7. Maybe

Reply to YellowRubberDuckie (Reply #5)

Wed Apr 18, 2012, 07:56 PM

Apr 2012

I think most people mean well. and most of the stuff there doesn't bother me.

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Good advice: 10 things not to say to someone when they're ill [View all] snagglepuss Apr 2012 OP

My father did not tell anyone he had kidney cancer for the longest time. ScreamingMeemie Apr 2012 #1

These are right on. YellowRubberDuckie Apr 2012 #2

oh for pity's sake cali Apr 2012 #3

Maybe it's the way people have done it that set her off. YellowRubberDuckie Apr 2012 #5

Maybe cali Apr 2012 #7

Agree! And it's hard to come up with what is exactly the right thing to say. One RKP5637 Apr 2012 #14

I told my cousin that if people are standing around my death bed... YellowRubberDuckie Apr 2012 #16

That shocked me however I think her point of offeringto do specific things snagglepuss Apr 2012 #8

I just think she's a know it all busybody speaking for people who haven't asked her to cali Apr 2012 #10

But what if you don't want someone to vaccuum or do laundry? Luminous Animal Apr 2012 #15

Yeah so terrible that the person has to "think of a task" for them treestar Apr 2012 #28

She said no such thing. Prometheus Bound Apr 2012 #23

I agree, Cali. dmr Apr 2012 #32

Agh. I have a seriously ill friend. lapislzi Apr 2012 #4

A very wise rabbi once said that to sit with a person grieving, you must "breathe with" them. CTyankee Apr 2012 #12

If your friend values you, she'll appreciate your concern no matter Luminous Animal Apr 2012 #13

JFC. What and ass. People do the best that they can Luminous Animal Apr 2012 #6

The author should provide a list of 10 Approved Things to Say to Someone When They're Ill Arugula Latte Apr 2012 #9

She does. snagglepuss Apr 2012 #11

Funny story about the lack of PC regarding such. Lionessa Apr 2012 #17

Good ones Warpy Apr 2012 #18

Good Grief!! RobertEarl Apr 2012 #19

Except The Dick Cheney lunatica Apr 2012 #20

Basically, she's managed to list everything people might say to try to be nice. Warren DeMontague Apr 2012 #21

no wonder her friends make long excuses not to see her pitohui Apr 2012 #22

This must be why so many people simply shun their terminally ill friends varelse Apr 2012 #24

My Mother was at our house under Hospice Care goclark Apr 2012 #25

I can understand why that comment hit the wrong nerve. snagglepuss Apr 2012 #27

Thanks so much for understanding goclark Apr 2012 #34

I actually liked the list and the anecdotes. CBHagman Apr 2012 #26

My sentiments exactly. I am surprised how we seem to be in the minority snagglepuss Apr 2012 #29

Me too Prometheus Bound Apr 2012 #30

As a cancer survivor, I agree with a lot of this article. Jim Lane Apr 2012 #31

There seems to be a beggar-can't-be-choosers attitude on this thread, that sufferers ought to be snagglepuss Apr 2012 #33