General Discussion

badtoworse

(5,957 posts)

72. It's about doing things because you're spouse appreciates it vs doing it because you NEED to.

Reply to yardwork (Reply #70)

Thu Nov 13, 2014, 02:58 PM

Nov 2014

What drives your division of the chores?

Edit history

Please sign in to view edit histories.

Recommendations

0 members have recommended this reply (displayed in chronological order):

89 replies

= new reply since forum marked as read

Highlight:

Kirk Cameron Urges Women to Save Christmas by Cooking, Decorating the House, and Singing [View all] joeybee12 Nov 2014 OP

Why doesn't he tell husbands to do that? bravenak Nov 2014 #1

Or servants. Vinca Nov 2014 #2

Wives keep the homefires burning, while the husbands are woodsprite Nov 2014 #6

Kirk Cameron, making the War On Xmas a cakewalk yet again. Iggo Nov 2014 #3

I never got into Growing Pains, but there's nothing wrong with his suggestions badtoworse Nov 2014 #4

His suggestions are sexist. bravenak Nov 2014 #7

How so? badtoworse Nov 2014 #9

No comparable instructions for men. bravenak Nov 2014 #11

That doesn't mean he thinks they should be just sit in an easy chair sipping eggnog. badtoworse Nov 2014 #15

He doesn't think we should control our own reproductive healthcare. bravenak Nov 2014 #19

Unless I missed something, he was talking about Christmas, not reproductive healthcare badtoworse Nov 2014 #22

It shows his mindset. bravenak Nov 2014 #24

I can put logs in the fireplace. I can chop wood. I can deep fry a turkey. I can put lights up. bravenak Nov 2014 #20

My wife can take out the garbage, but she really appreciates it when I do it. badtoworse Nov 2014 #28

He should have instructed them to share tasks and spend quality time together. bravenak Nov 2014 #31

I'm a lesbian. My partner and I do all those things all the time. yardwork Nov 2014 #70

It's about doing things because you're spouse appreciates it vs doing it because you NEED to. badtoworse Nov 2014 #72

Not to mention taking the garbage out, killing spiders, unclogging the toilet, Nye Bevan Nov 2014 #29

What's the precise problem with females doing the things you list? LanternWaste Nov 2014 #30

You might want to ask Kirk Cameron that. Quantess Nov 2014 #65

Women do those things too. yardwork Nov 2014 #69

That doesn't necessarily mean pipi_k Nov 2014 #32

Stereotypical is sexist. bravenak Nov 2014 #36

My definition pipi_k Nov 2014 #48

That 'mommy stereotype' is sexist. bravenak Nov 2014 #50

Just out of curiosity, do you think John Gray (the author) is sexist? badtoworse Nov 2014 #53

How would I know? bravenak Nov 2014 #55

He wrote a number of books about relationships between men and women. badtoworse Nov 2014 #56

That sounds familiar. bravenak Nov 2014 #57

Either late 80's or early 90's. badtoworse Nov 2014 #59

I'll check it out. bravenak Nov 2014 #60

Yes gollygee Nov 2014 #64

Jain lays out a counter-argument based on 20 years of research that followed Gray's book. badtoworse Nov 2014 #66

Those same arguments were made when the book came out gollygee Nov 2014 #67

Nature vs nurture? badtoworse Nov 2014 #74

He bought into sexist stereotypes gollygee Nov 2014 #76

I think we are going to have to disagree about that. badtoworse Nov 2014 #81

I don't acknowledge anything gollygee Nov 2014 #88

Great way to articulate the point (and I loved the bit about Hair-ism) badtoworse Nov 2014 #51

Seriously? You don't see it? Arugula Latte Nov 2014 #17

He was silent about what the men should be doing. badtoworse Nov 2014 #21

Why can't they clean up? bravenak Nov 2014 #26

I do make cookies and roast prime rib Algernon Moncrieff Nov 2014 #39

That's fair. bravenak Nov 2014 #42

Prime rib? Brigid Nov 2014 #49

maybe their role should be decorating and spreading joy by cooking noiretextatique Nov 2014 #33

Putting aside that this whole thing is utterly moronic Arugula Latte Nov 2014 #84

Maybe he thinks women would do a better job. badtoworse Nov 2014 #85

Well, golly, that's awfully nice of him to point out that the gals are better at this stuff. Arugula Latte Nov 2014 #86

You talk about growing pains brucefan Nov 2014 #8

to be fair they are directed at just a certain subset of women...if you are this and if you are that msongs Nov 2014 #12

here's the problem: he has no suggestions for men about their "role" noiretextatique Nov 2014 #35

Maybe that is the next tweet when he finishes it. yeoman6987 Nov 2014 #47

Except in households where both parents have to work.. SomethingFishy Nov 2014 #77

...or a watermelon. That's no worse than what Ben Franklyn said badtoworse Nov 2014 #82

Christmas started on Halloween this year, what part needs f'n saving? MerryBlooms Nov 2014 #5

who is this blithering young idiot, and why should we care what he thinks? niyad Nov 2014 #10

Bill O'Reilly already has started his "War On War On Christmas..." Archae Nov 2014 #13

Ah yes how could I forget this time of year? Initech Nov 2014 #80

You heard the man, ladies. Your lack of tinsel and Thomas Kinkade figurines makes Jesus weep. Arugula Latte Nov 2014 #14

Give me some of that good old fashioned misogyny. Initech Nov 2014 #16

Good thing I don't give a shit what Kirk Cameron says or thinks. GoCubsGo Nov 2014 #18

I have no respect for that twerp Different Drummer Nov 2014 #23

Wow, and Kirk was how young at the time? shenmue Nov 2014 #43

Not very old. The producers should have told him to take a hike... Different Drummer Nov 2014 #61

Fuck off, Cameron. City Lights Nov 2014 #25

Come on Kirk, model it for us! oldandhappy Nov 2014 #27

Yet no one addresses the War on Thanksgiving Algernon Moncrieff Nov 2014 #34

christmas. the commercial version, starts around Halloween now noiretextatique Nov 2014 #40

Consarn it! shenmue Nov 2014 #62

Hey I do that stuff UglyGreed Nov 2014 #37

LOL. What a caveman. Does he still drag women around by their hair? Rex Nov 2014 #38

He forgot that part about JustAnotherGen Nov 2014 #41

Is he inviting his whole neighborhood into his house? Renew Deal Nov 2014 #44

No way sarisataka Nov 2014 #45

ISIS believes the same. Dawson Leery Nov 2014 #46

A man trying to tell women what to do. Brigid Nov 2014 #52

I cook, bake, decorate, but HockeyMom Nov 2014 #54

That's all nice, but the real question is the Feast of the Seven Fishes. badtoworse Nov 2014 #63

We do 12. Seven is for quitters. nt msanthrope Nov 2014 #71

Excellent! badtoworse Nov 2014 #73

Stay at home grandma here... logosoco Nov 2014 #58

People like Kirk need to worry about the mess in their own Skidmore Nov 2014 #68

Oh, piss off, Kirk Warpy Nov 2014 #75

What color is the sky in his world? hifiguy Nov 2014 #78

I saved Christmas by eating candy and snooping for my presents shenmue Nov 2014 #79

I LOVE Christmas and TBF Nov 2014 #83

It's the June Cleaverness of this that gets to me jmowreader Nov 2014 #87

I think I'll have a nice centuries-of-selective-breeding-by-humans banana.... JHB Nov 2014 #89