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juliann9494

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131. Dinner

Reply to ChisolmTrailDem (Original post)

Tue Nov 18, 2014, 05:53 PM

Nov 2014

I'm lucky, my entire family is Liberal ,except for one in law and we live in Texas.

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T - 9 Days until Thanksgiving dinner with teabagger extremists... [View all] ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2014 OP

I'm sorry JustAnotherGen Nov 2014 #1

Just tell them you don't want to talk politics. What I do in situations like that is bring up still_one Nov 2014 #2

Go more hardcore if you want to have some real fun--- snooper2 Nov 2014 #3

I thought about this, lol. Go exteme to the other side of their exremism. My fiance, though... nt ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2014 #11

If they live in Gomers district sharp_stick Nov 2014 #4

+1 ... 1StrongBlackMan Nov 2014 #130

+1, this is the way to handle it 0rganism Nov 2014 #151

My first instinct would be to point and laugh every time they make a stupid comment. louis-t Nov 2014 #5

A couple different things from a similar situation AleksS Nov 2014 #6

"Nothing good comes of engaging them..." While I agree, it does not seem fair that they are able to ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2014 #15

CTD, the advice blogger Captain Awkward will have some great scripts for you to use.... bettyellen Nov 2014 #24

Open in another tab, bettyellen =) Will have a look, thank you! nt ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2014 #35

I love that friggen blog..... bettyellen Nov 2014 #45

For the sake of your fiance, you will avebury Nov 2014 #40

Actually, I don't want to use the word "fortunate" here but my fiance and I are middle-aged, myself ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2014 #47

"She really doesn't want to go either but knows if we don't, it will only mean misery because that's avebury Nov 2014 #112

Sounds totally toxic already - I understand your concern & good luck lunasun Nov 2014 #159

Or maybe they'll heed the boundaries and we can all have a nice go of it. That's what ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2014 #160

I call it Teabagger Tourette's syndrome. May it be in remission on Turkey day lunasun Nov 2014 #165

Beg off with the flu/ebola, whatever. Have the fiancee bring you a plate later, so you can keep up monmouth4 Nov 2014 #63

Get good at the one-liner marions ghost Nov 2014 #77

Yeah, but wouldn't life suck if it really were fair AleksS Nov 2014 #133

As I posted earlier ... 1StrongBlackMan Nov 2014 #136

Heres some ammunition VanillaRhapsody Nov 2014 #7

These people don't want to see anything that isn't fox nooz. Indeed, I have a quote: ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2014 #19

it IS Fox News... VanillaRhapsody Nov 2014 #21

I actually saw that and had a brain fart when I posted. They won't hear it, though, even ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2014 #22

You've got what it takes marions ghost Nov 2014 #81

I followed that up by saying that I have personally caught every news network outright lying ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2014 #103

Perfect--you made your point in the way that has no comeback marions ghost Nov 2014 #149

I've been wondering what Thanksgiving will be like hedgehog Nov 2014 #8

I was told by these people Saturday night that my fiance and I should not consider a European ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2014 #20

Oh my I don't know what to say to that. avebury Nov 2014 #42

We were in London and Paris last May and survived. mnhtnbb Nov 2014 #55

I told them that "I am not scared of Muslims or terrorists attacking us and I'm not going to let ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2014 #59

When it's a really ridiculous statement like that marions ghost Nov 2014 #84

All you need is love jeepers Nov 2014 #9

Very good advice, jeepers. Thank you for this arrow for my quiverful of options. It is most likely ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2014 #23

Football. Watch it. Ignore them. Drink. JoePhilly Nov 2014 #10

I will try to honor my fiance's wishes to keep the peace... She has readily ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2014 #25

What is your fiance's opinion on the topic avebury Nov 2014 #44

We're middle-aged and have both raised our own children to adulthood. Her daughters are close by ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2014 #50

Here's something I do with part of my wife's family ... JoePhilly Nov 2014 #60

(FYI, American citizens are allowed to own Jenoch Nov 2014 #142

Irrelevant to my point. JoePhilly Nov 2014 #143

Ask the cook how much she had to pay for the turkey - hedgehog Nov 2014 #12

Haha, good one! I will do this =) Thanks, hedgehog! nt ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2014 #26

Respect your role as guest -- Hell Hath No Fury Nov 2014 #13

This is the advice I will try mightily to follow, though allowing the BS is not in my usual ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2014 #29

Sit back and admire the sea of fools that you are both intellectually and morally superior to NightWatcher Nov 2014 #14

I have to drive 150 miles so I won't be drunk. Stoned goes without saying, lol! nt ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2014 #30

ha ha marions ghost Nov 2014 #88

This phrase helps me more than it should when surrounded by right-wing dullards... LanternWaste Nov 2014 #16

Don't do this but sharp_stick Nov 2014 #17

Tempting though, lol. nt ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2014 #74

And she puts Obama on the SC!! JoePhilly Nov 2014 #144

We always have a mixed crowd B2G Nov 2014 #18

I never bring up politics and religion in mixed company. However, these people absolutely have no ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2014 #31

find something else to do. Volunteer at a soup kitchen. librechik Nov 2014 #27

You could always offer to sya grace and then read something "appropriate" from the Bible... brooklynite Nov 2014 #28

This is an exellent idea! Any suggestions of "appropriate" passages? nt ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2014 #32

Jeremiah 23 is filled with things that should be helpful. Get creative! greatlaurel Nov 2014 #163

How about the stuff in Ezekiel about the emissions like horses??? Manifestor_of_Light Nov 2014 #168

I'm usually sadly outnumbered so I generally keep quiet Lars39 Nov 2014 #33

Can you just drink to extreme Laffy Kat Nov 2014 #34

Yes! My fiance has no issue with not drinking so that I can. However, I know for a fact that when ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2014 #37

You've got this, CTD! Laffy Kat Nov 2014 #39

Haha! Will do, Laffy Kat =D nt ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2014 #41

bring plenty mercuryblues Nov 2014 #94

try to talk to them about things they know olddots Nov 2014 #36

Just know that you're not going to change their minds The2ndWheel Nov 2014 #38

That's how I feel about some members of my husband's family... Phentex Nov 2014 #114

Well, I disagree with pretty much everyone posting here. HERVEPA Nov 2014 #43

I think she needs to join him in asking to change the subject, and help him "opt out" of such bettyellen Nov 2014 #46

Thanks for the correction, I had no idea, lol. I haven't been a fiance since 1990. As for ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2014 #54

I agree with you. Le Taz Hot Nov 2014 #135

Laugh... SomethingFishy Nov 2014 #48

Plan to laugh a lot. Use Poe's Law to advantage. immoderate Nov 2014 #49

Football, FRIENDS and FAMILY, Fun, and Deep Fried Turkey! Yum. I can't wait! cherokeeprogressive Nov 2014 #51

Turn a football game on the TV and act like you are really upaloopa Nov 2014 #52

Better Yet, Find A Room With A TV. . . ProfessorGAC Nov 2014 #82

I have done that upaloopa Nov 2014 #93

I've Done It Too ProfessorGAC Nov 2014 #101

Your fiancee knows you and them well. Follow her lead LeftyMom Nov 2014 #53

You could always develop a case of flu--or maybe, Ebola? mnhtnbb Nov 2014 #56

When they start in, remind them the turkey is on the table... KansDem Nov 2014 #57

Your soon to be wife is asking you to ignore it and you are considering telling her to fuck off? joeglow3 Nov 2014 #58

I would never mess up the peace we've enjoyed in our relationship in order to tell her to ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2014 #61

Then you bite your tongue.....period joeglow3 Nov 2014 #66

Excellent advice, which I will try mightily to follow amid the spewage coming from the teabaggers.nt ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2014 #67

You could try the "Make a new tradition" route. riqster Nov 2014 #70

That's a good idea if we could pull it off. I am off the hook for next year since we'll be able to ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2014 #72

it's a good idea in that it will help you set boundaries.... bettyellen Nov 2014 #75

It helps that my wife and I are middle-aged. Easier to set boundaries. riqster Nov 2014 #78

Focus on priorities and practicalities. riqster Nov 2014 #62

Sing or play the internationale MillennialDem Nov 2014 #64

If you are asked what you think say, "I read something different." Dollface Nov 2014 #65

Just laugh at them Politicalboi Nov 2014 #68

Stay home leftynyc Nov 2014 #69

Yea, staying home not an option, sadly. I wish I lived in a liberal area, leftynyc. We're talking ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2014 #76

I'm truly not trying to cause any leftynyc Nov 2014 #113

Just dunk them BlindTiresias Nov 2014 #71

Other advice in this thread that is very tempting is to go even further extremes than they do, so... ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2014 #73

Lol BlindTiresias Nov 2014 #80

perhaps you should reconsider riverbendviewgal Nov 2014 #79

I suggest something like TexasMommaWithAHat Nov 2014 #83

That's pretty good advice... Phentex Nov 2014 #115

I refuse to hate my relatives who are Republican TexasMommaWithAHat Nov 2014 #117

Commiseration! Feral Child Nov 2014 #85

I second the idea of bringing a gift marions ghost Nov 2014 #95

Yeppers. Feral Child Nov 2014 #110

Right exactly marions ghost Nov 2014 #141

Non-defensive, non-explanatory, polite replies: msanthrope Nov 2014 #86

Yep marions ghost Nov 2014 #96

Bonus points for smiling marions ghost Nov 2014 #97

So sorry... I have them in my family too Peacetrain Nov 2014 #87

I gave into similar requests from my wife, years ago. Paladin Nov 2014 #89

You can't put politics aside for one day? Not even one? Dreamer Tatum Nov 2014 #90

Why don't THEY let it slide? ProudToBeBlueInRhody Nov 2014 #120

Who cares? Does the fate of the world depend on parrying a few arguments? Dreamer Tatum Nov 2014 #123

"What a sad, pathetic, angry little existence some people live" ProudToBeBlueInRhody Nov 2014 #126

I would be. Know why? Because I'm an adult, and I can hold my tongue. Dreamer Tatum Nov 2014 #132

What if one of those people decided to start throwing around the n-word? ProudToBeBlueInRhody Nov 2014 #134

I think you should be respectful, but I don't think you should have to be offended. hamsterjill Nov 2014 #91

Easy Peasey! Sissyk Nov 2014 #92

The thing about this is that it is the hosts who are bringing taboo topics up in ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2014 #99

Well, good luck to you! Sissyk Nov 2014 #137

Here's what to do: Don't Go LordGlenconner Nov 2014 #98

Of course you are right, everything you said. Sigh. nt ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2014 #107

And since not going is not an option LordGlenconner Nov 2014 #119

What if it was the other way around? simak Nov 2014 #100

republican voters are the stupidest humans on this planet! Equipped with plenty of facts, pffft!!! ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2014 #105

That's it, really charm them. You'll do fine. n/t simak Nov 2014 #109

LOL ProudToBeBlueInRhody Nov 2014 #128

I guess that would depend on your arguments. The media is often less than forthcoming. n/t simak Nov 2014 #146

Oh, I can see how this is gonna go..... n/m ProudToBeBlueInRhody Nov 2014 #161

This line - TBF Nov 2014 #129

I'm in a red county, and I know plenty of them. simak Nov 2014 #145

Yes actually I know Wisconsin TBF Nov 2014 #147

Actually, I'm native New Yorker in a conservative part of Florida. simak Nov 2014 #164

being against reproductive choice is NOT being a moderate Democratic. bettyellen Nov 2014 #166

Never heard of Bart Stupak? simak Nov 2014 #167

SMH Mr Dixon Nov 2014 #102

I'm going to avoid allowing myself to be drawn into their dark little world, Mr Dixon. nt ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2014 #104

arguing with them is only going to make your fiancee miserable. Takket Nov 2014 #106

That's the first thing I thought of when I saw their colors: Well, at least I'll be cancelling out ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2014 #108

Ooh boy, maybe we'll make NewsBusters again! WorseBeforeBetter Nov 2014 #111

Ask them if they feel safe eating the turkey. If so, remind them that it is because muntrv Nov 2014 #116

Thank God I have none of these issues with family ProudToBeBlueInRhody Nov 2014 #118

get sick and do not go oldandhappy Nov 2014 #121

Don't go. Why torture yourself. Cut the cord. LawDeeDah Nov 2014 #122

Just say --- elfin Nov 2014 #124

We order Turkey ahead of time TBF Nov 2014 #125

If you love your Fiance it would be best to maybe just ignore them. dilby Nov 2014 #127

Dinner juliann9494 Nov 2014 #131

If I were you, I wouldn't go. I can't imagine why your fiance wants to be there. Vinca Nov 2014 #138

I'd politely try to switch the subject Warpy Nov 2014 #139

You should listen to your girlfriend. Jenoch Nov 2014 #140

Go watch some football ignore political conversations. ileus Nov 2014 #148

Dress as a giant turkey, and respond to any questions with "gobble" Islandurp Nov 2014 #150

Maybe Paul Simon will loan his out... Arugula Latte Nov 2014 #156

My family back east are the same abelenkpe Nov 2014 #152

if you love her Niceguy1 Nov 2014 #153

just keep it quiet. If you love your fiancee, that is what you will do. boston bean Nov 2014 #154

I am always sober on Thanksgiving. AngryAmish Nov 2014 #155

no need to engage KT2000 Nov 2014 #157

The one time I was in a situation, such as yours, I made believe that I was an actor.. BlueJazz Nov 2014 #158

Eat as quickly as possible and go for a long walk afterward LeftInTX Nov 2014 #162