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Dorian Gray

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113. That's where you're wrong

Thu Nov 27, 2014, 08:28 AM

Nov 2014

I have no negative energy toward her. I think the people who were screaming that she was selfish and shouldn't have flown (when she took the steps to call to inquire about her health before she did) were unfair to her.

But there is no logical reason why she deserves a refund on her deposit. Because she recovered from a terrible illness? She chose to shop elsewhere. If she honestly did that out of the kindness of her heart, she should have spoken to the store prior to doing so and asked if it was possible to get her deposit back. Instead she sent a letter from her lawyer after the fact. That's sort of shitty. Rather than conversing in person, she sent a letter from her lawyer.

So, whie she is brave and I'm happy she recovered from this horrible illness, and I never thought she was deserving of any condemnation regarding that, I also don't believe she is deserving of extra privileges when shopping for wedding clothing for her bridesmaids because she was brave and recovered from a life threatening illness.

It's not negative energy toward anybody. It's reality.

Your inability to see that she is asking for treatment above and beyond what the store offers other customers is baffling.

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Nurse who had Ebola asks bridal store for refunds [View all] tammywammy Nov 2014 OP

That takes some balls liberal N proud Nov 2014 #1

No, it takes some understanding of medical science and mass hysteria fuelled by the media...you Fred Sanders Nov 2014 #9

WTF does understanding of medical science have to do with her deciding to not get LisaL Nov 2014 #12

You put a non-refundable deposit down Ms. Toad Nov 2014 #15

How do you figure? liberal N proud Nov 2014 #16

How did SHE cause harm? You seem to forget it was mass hysteria causing the harm. Fred Sanders Nov 2014 #18

I think that must be it because things are getting weird on this subject. LawDeeDah Nov 2014 #76

Yes, exactly, the psychology unfolding on this thread of victimization syndrome is fascinating. Fred Sanders Nov 2014 #128

Part of our survivalist walnut brain from millions of years ago LawDeeDah Nov 2014 #129

Speaking only for myself SickOfTheOnePct Nov 2014 #77

It wasn't she who caused the harm, it was mass hysteria stupidity. I'd bill CNN and the enablers LawDeeDah Nov 2014 #32

She was not a hero. She travelled on a plane liberalhistorian Nov 2014 #49

Your lack of regard for medical heroism in Africa you care not for, I get it, but your ignorance of Fred Sanders Nov 2014 #53

You do realize, don't you, that she was not exposed to ebola in Africa. WillowTree Nov 2014 #98

Wish I could unread your post. Good grief. n/t Judi Lynn Nov 2014 #56

Go treat some patients with a scary disease, then talk about heroes. moriah Nov 2014 #85

Well...thats just amazing. Rhinodawg Nov 2014 #122

Not a hero. Crunchy Frog Nov 2014 #55

Unbelievably you think spending months in Africa helping others at risk to self is not heroic..that Fred Sanders Nov 2014 #95

Vinson didn't spend months in Africa. tammywammy Nov 2014 #97

Which months did she spend in Africa? WillowTree Nov 2014 #99

That was an error, the point being these nurses are heroically on the front lines...you keep your Fred Sanders Nov 2014 #100

You don't know the first thing about what I did or didn't buy into. WillowTree Nov 2014 #102

Jumping to conclusions without facts. Crunchy Frog Nov 2014 #121

ROFL! She didn't spend a second in Africa. Crunchy Frog Nov 2014 #107

I hurl all I have at medical science deniers and fear mongers....I am just that way. You folk cling Fred Sanders Nov 2014 #118

You project and namecall and call that "science". Crunchy Frog Nov 2014 #120

Not a hero to me - she 840high Nov 2014 #127

store owner should sue Vinson for her business losses. magical thyme Nov 2014 #2

How did Vinson cause the store losses? Fred Sanders Nov 2014 #8

she went shopping while she was starting to show symptoms... magical thyme Nov 2014 #40

By going into the store knowing liberalhistorian Nov 2014 #50

No. They lost business because of hysteria, nothing more, no one was at risk, scientifically Fred Sanders Nov 2014 #52

You mean to try to convince us that you honestly do not know how the public thinks? Jamastiene Nov 2014 #79

Public health officials forced a three week closure Crunchy Frog Nov 2014 #109

Public health officials also panicked and did not understand the science, like the ones in Maine and Fred Sanders Nov 2014 #117

The only person I see panicking on this board is you. Crunchy Frog Nov 2014 #119

Store owner should do exactly as store owner is doing and keep the non-refundable deposit. Iggo Nov 2014 #20

you're right, of course magical thyme Nov 2014 #41

Aww jimony shenmue Nov 2014 #3

She saw publicity harm the store, so she decided to not LisaL Nov 2014 #4

Critical thinking at its best. NV Whino Nov 2014 #6

so the continuing fearful people would feel safe, because even though she uppityperson Nov 2014 #22

How does canceling an order for dresses make the public feel safer? magical thyme Nov 2014 #42

Did you even read the post you replied to? uppityperson Nov 2014 #47

Maybe she doesn't want her bridesmaids Crunchy Frog Nov 2014 #58

alrighty -- she claims she was doing the store a favor, to spare them further scrutiny? unblock Nov 2014 #5

She fucking visited the store while not symptomatic...so it is the fucking scardy cat ignorant public Fred Sanders Nov 2014 #7

The store has a policy against refunds. LisaL Nov 2014 #11

According to the CDC's current guidelines she was symptomatic. Ms. Toad Nov 2014 #13

CDC and its anti science hysteria!!!11! Crunchy Frog Nov 2014 #60

I know. Ms. Toad Nov 2014 #65

She also was running a fever. Nt WolverineDG Nov 2014 #62

Not when she visited the bridal shop. Ms. Toad Nov 2014 #63

Didn't she have a fever at some point though? WolverineDG Nov 2014 #67

She developed a fever before the flight home. Ms. Toad Nov 2014 #71

Mine too WolverineDG Nov 2014 #93

I agree with everything you said. nt laundry_queen Nov 2014 #116

The store has a no refund policy. tammywammy Nov 2014 #14

I totally agree. This is an unusual circumstance so the 'keep deposit' thing shouldn't apply. LawDeeDah Nov 2014 #34

How is it really that unusual? tammywammy Nov 2014 #36

For one thing, that dress shop could have had a lot of business from the LawDeeDah Nov 2014 #48

BS SickOfTheOnePct Nov 2014 #54

and BS back atcha. LawDeeDah Nov 2014 #61

Why exactly do you believe she should get a refund? SickOfTheOnePct Nov 2014 #64

you know what, I don't give a fuck. LawDeeDah Nov 2014 #72

I highly doubt giving her a refund would have netted any good return from the nurses union. tammywammy Nov 2014 #69

okay you win. No exceptions for anything ever. LawDeeDah Nov 2014 #73

Why was she deserving of a special Dorian Gray Nov 2014 #110

Is this a soap opera? LawDeeDah Nov 2014 #111

That's where you're wrong Dorian Gray Nov 2014 #113

Agreed. Vinson is being extraordinarily petty. n/t Crunchy Frog Nov 2014 #123

I live in WA, am a fellow nursing giving her support. Shame on thinking only those she worked with uppityperson Nov 2014 #74

So from Washington state you're going to travel to Cleveland to buy dresses? tammywammy Nov 2014 #81

wtf? I'm already married. I was responding to you saying nurses where she lived would support her, uppityperson Nov 2014 #83

She was symptomatic when she visited, per CDC's current guidelines magical thyme Nov 2014 #43

FFS! HappyMe Nov 2014 #10

I posted this yesterday. Ms. Toad Nov 2014 #17

I just heard about it this morning on the local news. tammywammy Nov 2014 #19

That was my reaction, as well. Ms. Toad Nov 2014 #28

If the store has a no refund policy she is out of luck. She lost them no business, fear uppityperson Nov 2014 #21

I looked at a bunch of articles and none say anything different. tammywammy Nov 2014 #27

I see no issue with asking for a refund, but not to expect it. uppityperson Nov 2014 #38

I agree tammywammy Nov 2014 #39

She didn't ask. Her lawyer did, and took it public. nt magical thyme Nov 2014 #44

Zales replaces Amber Vinson's destroyed engagement ring. KMOD Nov 2014 #23

She didn't con Zales for a new ring. tammywammy Nov 2014 #25

How was her ring trashed? On edit - it was incinerated. yardwork Nov 2014 #66

Which is ridiculous really. tammywammy Nov 2014 #70

wtf, now you are calling her a con artist? LawDeeDah Nov 2014 #82

Please read the fucking post I replied to BEFORE it was edited. tammywammy Nov 2014 #84

That was my bad, LawDeeDah KMOD Nov 2014 #103

ah, okay. LawDeeDah Nov 2014 #104

I'll accept your apology in advance. tammywammy Nov 2014 #106

I guess I didn't see the edit. LawDeeDah Nov 2014 #108

Appreciation for fixing of post. IdaBriggs Nov 2014 #26

I was being snarky. My apologies. I will fix it. KMOD Nov 2014 #29

Considering the markup on jewelry, it was probably pennies for Zales. tammywammy Nov 2014 #30

There is a big difference between a jewelery company Ms. Toad Nov 2014 #31

She believed she was being helpful. KMOD Nov 2014 #33

Nonsense. Ms. Toad Nov 2014 #35

Her intent, is her intent, it can't be argued. KMOD Nov 2014 #37

I've written enough demand letters which generate negative publicity, Ms. Toad Nov 2014 #51

Her lawyer said it was an attempt to help the store *and to help Amber* magical thyme Nov 2014 #46

She sounds like she's begging for sympathy SickOfTheOnePct Nov 2014 #68

Long term effects of Ebola KMOD Nov 2014 #78

Thank you for the correction SickOfTheOnePct Nov 2014 #86

What??? What is WRONG with you people? LawDeeDah Nov 2014 #87

Wrong again n/t SickOfTheOnePct Nov 2014 #90

I would hazard guesses that the wayback machine has some very familiar names LawDeeDah Nov 2014 #80

This store really got "screwed" .... etherealtruth Nov 2014 #24

This is a great example of a non-story becoming a national news story. Rex Nov 2014 #45

You speak for many others, too, believe me. I wondered, also, who the hell would publish this. n/t Judi Lynn Nov 2014 #57

It's a story because she didn't just move on. Ms. Toad Nov 2014 #75

As The Ebola Scare Turns... LawDeeDah Nov 2014 #89

Not revenge so much as trying to justify buying into the media fear. Fred Sanders Nov 2014 #96

You don't find Dorian Gray Nov 2014 #114

tell it to the CDC Ms. Toad Nov 2014 #125

Actually the store should sue FOX News and CNN for the hysterical coverage that cost them business. kelliekat44 Nov 2014 #59

nah, it's always easier to pick on the weaker than CNN and FOX in cases like these. LawDeeDah Nov 2014 #88

No, they should actually sue the public health officials Crunchy Frog Nov 2014 #112

Maybe that is what she hired a lawyer for. LawDeeDah Nov 2014 #115

K&R to nurses everywhere. LawDeeDah Nov 2014 #91

I don't understand getting the attorney involved... Blue_Tires Nov 2014 #92

He might be working on something else LawDeeDah Nov 2014 #94

Meanwhile, the store lost tens of thousands of dollars. AngryOldDem Nov 2014 #101

Amber still need to get her veil from Anna Younker, KMOD Nov 2014 #105

The store owner should prepare a list of charges SHE incurred SoCalDem Nov 2014 #124

good lord.... LawDeeDah Nov 2014 #130

appears that amber vinson is really pushing to keep herself in the spotlight. locdlib Nov 2014 #126