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gollygee

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28. I confronted for a good amount of time and then unfriended

Reply to lonestarnot (Reply #26)

Thu Dec 4, 2014, 11:50 AM

Dec 2014

I respect the opinion that unfriending wasn't a good way to handle it, but at some point I have to realize that I can't control what other people do, and can only control what I'm willing to accept. I felt like accepting his screeds onto my Facebook feed was not OK. I think he liked arguing with me - it just emboldened him. What's the saying - don't argue with a pig, because you both get filthy and the pig likes it?

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Has anyone unfriended anyone lately on Facebook over racism? [View all] gollygee Dec 2014 OP

never got into Myface or Spacebook notadmblnd Dec 2014 #1

I thought it would be a good way to keep up with people I don't see all the time gollygee Dec 2014 #2

I'm very stingy with friend requests nichomachus Dec 2014 #31

same here. I do have linkedIN, but that is for career networking, not socializing still_one Dec 2014 #11

No, I keep my "friends" list very tight etherealtruth Dec 2014 #3

Never tried facebook. stone space Dec 2014 #4

+++ still_one Dec 2014 #12

I only have 8 friends gwheezie Dec 2014 #5

I have never befriended face book. Maybe you should unfriend it. lonestarnot Dec 2014 #6

Well gollygee Dec 2014 #10

Sheltered? Really? How does one shelter from racism? There is no fucking shelter from racism. If lonestarnot Dec 2014 #14

OK that's what I just said gollygee Dec 2014 #15

Your headline was a take on taking shelter by unfriending inquiry. lonestarnot Dec 2014 #16

No gollygee Dec 2014 #22

Glad you recognize that unfriending like ignoring won't make it go away. Confront the sonofabitches lonestarnot Dec 2014 #26

I confronted for a good amount of time and then unfriended gollygee Dec 2014 #28

I did have a long talk with a friend about the issue el_bryanto Dec 2014 #7

So no recognition of the institutionalized racism by your little friend then? lonestarnot Dec 2014 #18

Not so you'd notice. el_bryanto Dec 2014 #21

No (nt) bigwillq Dec 2014 #8

I have 628 "Friends" and I haven't seen any yeoman6987 Dec 2014 #9

We don't usually talk about politics gollygee Dec 2014 #13

So far nothing on my page yeoman6987 Dec 2014 #17

a couple who i should unfriend but have not dembotoz Dec 2014 #19

I just troll the ones on my friends threads. librechik Dec 2014 #20

Nope....I don't unfriend anyone. ileus Dec 2014 #23

Isn't that the same thing? gollygee Dec 2014 #24

The still remain in you friend list, but none of their posts will appear. ileus Dec 2014 #27

Hmm that might be helpful in some cases gollygee Dec 2014 #42

Yes. I've unfriended my own brother.... DonViejo Dec 2014 #25

"I found this amazing app that shows you which of your friends are racist." Recursion Dec 2014 #29

I don't have to unfriend anybody... Bigmack Dec 2014 #30

No, I confront them. RedCappedBandit Dec 2014 #32

read #28 gollygee Dec 2014 #33

Some people need to be defriended for your own sanity of course RedCappedBandit Dec 2014 #38

I dump racists right away sharp_stick Dec 2014 #34

Posted "If you hate black people please un-friend me" & shared. L0oniX Dec 2014 #35

No, but I have hidden one. logosoco Dec 2014 #36

I unfriended anyone as soon as I saw it ismnotwasm Dec 2014 #37

Yup. lapislzi Dec 2014 #39

Yessir Dirty Socialist Dec 2014 #40

Yes. And I'd never, ever done that liberalhistorian Dec 2014 #41

No more Ms. Nice Liberal!!! bravenak Dec 2014 #43

I feel like something has finally, truly, and liberalhistorian Dec 2014 #44