Have you ever been bullied by a parent with Dimentia? I have and I want to tell you my story [View all]

[Coolest Ranger]

You all know me very well. I have been here a long time. But what you do not know is what I go through when I log off. All of my life, I have been the victim of a parent who gets a sick pleasure in bullying people. At first, I ignored the signs because I thought this was something that African-American parents do, but as I have made this journey through my life I have learned from other family members that the person in question, my grandmother has been a bully all of my life.

So I wanted to put my story out there and see how many of you have gone through what I am going through now. My grandmother has always been a user, a manipulative person, sarcastic, demanding, and very controlling. It's been in her personality for as long as I can remember. Now that she's gotten older, I had hoped that her attitude and her behavior at how she's been treating me would improve, but from my observation they have gotten worse. When she can't get her way, she starts being abusive and she starts cursing and what I notice she's doing now is physically threatening me with harm when she can't get her way. The first time I came here and I put up with that for more than a year, I got fed up and moved out.

I found that living on my own was tough as I was falling behind with finances but I was happy. I could get up when I wanted to, go to bed when I wanted to, leave and come back when I wanted to, but then she got looney and begged for me to come back. Despite every fiber in my being telling me that I should not come back, reality forced me to move back so I did. That turned out to be a huge mistake as I have had to contend with physical and verbal abuse from her literary every day. Although her doctor says she has no signs of dementia, I know better because I see it. Most of the day I am either working on a tv project or my novel, or a film idea, so I do not keep up with what she does with her things. When she looses her things and she does a lot, all of a sudden, I am expected to know where they are when I do not have a clue what she's done with things. Then she gets frustrated with me, because I'm expected to keep up with all her things. You can not talk to her and try to explain things to her. She also loves gossiping about people. I have never met anyone who knows everything that goes on in the county. When I refuse to gossip she goes off on me.

This morning she had the nerve to speak for God by saying that quote, I'm going to be dead in ten years and she will be glad when I die. That hurt me so bad. That was twice in two days she told me something like that. I made up my mind this morning that I'm moving out and I'm moving out for good. I would like to know has anyone else been through anything similar with their loved ones who are like my grandmother?

Do you think I'm making the right decision by leaving at the end of the month?