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bravenak

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2. I believe there may be no other way.

Tue Dec 9, 2014, 02:34 PM

Dec 2014

My Aunt is very much like your grandmother, I believe... Very manipulative, abusive, never wants me happy, talks behind my back, told her son who was dying 'I don't care, die!', stole from my grandmother, stole from me, pulled a gun on my aunt, my mom, me....

Now, the only one with time to spend with her is her cat and a few family members who stop by. It's better this way. My sister provides a stipend for her and since she is so greedy, she prefers that over company. I feel bad, but I never call. It's too stressful. I believe she has a personality disorder, but she won't get treated.

At least you can still check on her and make sure she is doing ok, but having your own space is necessary.

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Have you ever been bullied by a parent with Dimentia? I have and I want to tell you my story [View all] Coolest Ranger Dec 2014 OP

Yes, get out. jeff47 Dec 2014 #1

I believe there may be no other way. bravenak Dec 2014 #2

A grandparent, sarisataka Dec 2014 #3

Leave marions ghost Dec 2014 #4

sounds like she wants you around TO abuse you Skittles Dec 2014 #5

You have to get out HappyMe Dec 2014 #6

You are making the right decision, save yourself. LawDeeDah Dec 2014 #7

You've described my wife's Aunt ... 1StrongBlackMan Dec 2014 #8

You are making the right decision, IMHO Rhiannon12866 Dec 2014 #9

My father was a narcissistic sociopath who developed dementia at the end of his life. Dont call me Shirley Dec 2014 #10

I am very sorry for what has been and is happening to you. ChisolmTrailDem Dec 2014 #11

Are you strong enough to stay away? GeorgeGist Dec 2014 #12

I wouldn't want to be subjected to it. Pacifist Patriot Dec 2014 #13

Put yourself first. Do not for one minute think you're being selfish or mean by doing so. AngryOldDem Dec 2014 #14

Yes Sweet Freedom Dec 2014 #15

What ever you do,just plain do it. Wellstone ruled Dec 2014 #16

My husband is a psychiatrist. He says that as people age, they become more mnhtnbb Dec 2014 #17

I'll echo the others and say, yes, get out. And if your relatives give you grief, well, Arugula Latte Dec 2014 #18

The first thing they teach lifeguards is that the drowning person can drown YOU. GreatGazoo Dec 2014 #19

leave, go far away demigoddess Dec 2014 #20

I had to come out of lurking to reply to this lonewolf674 Dec 2014 #21

Get out of there - TBF Dec 2014 #22