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hunter

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105. Very similar to my own experiences.

Tue Dec 9, 2014, 03:42 PM

Dec 2014

For example, my wife was working on an (American) Indian reservation. We didn't have much trouble fitting in. We all had a wonderful time, even when I got in trouble for the wine box they found in our trash.

Yes, I bought the wine box at the Jewel market in Albuquerque, and yes, I drank it all fairly slowly with my dinners. What can I say? No excuses. Sometimes I'm an idiot.

The apartment they gave us had holes punched and kicked in the walls and doors, mirrors broken, etc.. It reeked of privileged white people frustration.

The damage was from white people who thought they knew how to "help" these poor Native Americans and therefore totally alienated themselves from the community. Nobody would talk to them and they had a contract to fulfill. Worse, this was before cell phones. There were just two pay phones in this community and you always had to wait in line for them. Waiting in line for a pay phone with people who despise you has got to be torture.

Anyways, if you ever want to know what people need, just ask. Don't tell them what they "should" be doing, or "what you would do." That just makes you an asshole.

I suppose the kids you "lost" couldn't do that.

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a kick to go with my rec.. Because only one who has been pushed into the mud of annabanana Dec 2014 #1

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Bwah! Recursion Dec 2014 #3

No, I don't, if that's your claim. nt Dreamer Tatum Dec 2014 #4

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I completely believe you ... 1StrongBlackMan Dec 2014 #35

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Well that changes matters significantly. Dreamer Tatum Dec 2014 #64

How does that change things significantly? pnwmom Dec 2014 #97

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Sorry, Dreamer, it's true, it happened to me. I had an adverse closure when someone on my family DesertDiamond Dec 2014 #47

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And if you're an American living overseas, Art_from_Ark Dec 2014 #167

Any reason you think the OP is a liar? TexasProgresive Dec 2014 #98

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+1 nt Live and Learn Dec 2014 #142

Yep, it's always the poor person's fault. jeff47 Dec 2014 #8

That was what drove me insane on the Slate comments. Recursion Dec 2014 #13

Yes, people who haven't experienced it treestar Dec 2014 #23

Yep ... 1StrongBlackMan Dec 2014 #46

It's funny. I took to eating at a church soup kitchen every Tuesday and Thursday night. Recursion Dec 2014 #60

Very similar to my own experiences. hunter Dec 2014 #105

+1 ... 1StrongBlackMan Dec 2014 #158

Why I think community service is SO important - it pays closeupready Dec 2014 #155

So true ... 1StrongBlackMan Dec 2014 #159

Another one that really 2naSalit Dec 2014 #57

This is the anti-social self-help "positive-thinking" culture at work. Odin2005 Dec 2014 #75

It is. 2naSalit Dec 2014 #81

"That's why I ... walk away" - yes, exactly. closeupready Dec 2014 #156

The brilliant Barbara Ehrenreich writes about this in her book tblue37 Dec 2014 #132

Oh cool. 2naSalit Dec 2014 #162

The ebook version is under $6. nt tblue37 Dec 2014 #163

thank you for the recommendation- sounds good! bettyellen Dec 2014 #164

Not true in many cases. A HERETIC I AM Dec 2014 #11

I've since found out that MA is particularly ruthless about this Recursion Dec 2014 #73

Try walking into a bank, post Patriot Act with nothing but $5 in your pocket Glassunion Dec 2014 #20

Smug much? - nt KingCharlemagne Dec 2014 #25

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How rude, tatum. chervilant Dec 2014 #33

That's his M.O. geardaddy Dec 2014 #40

Well, then... chervilant Dec 2014 #45

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We weren't told about the adverse closure when I replied. Dreamer Tatum Dec 2014 #65

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I love USAA Ruby the Liberal Dec 2014 #79

I think you are in denial. Odin2005 Dec 2014 #77

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You are calling the OP a liar because it threatens your beautiful mind. Odin2005 Dec 2014 #89

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BWAH! Odin2005 Dec 2014 #147

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Wrong again. Are you in the running for the most wrong-headed thinking closeupready Dec 2014 #154

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Predators prey on the weak. bemildred Dec 2014 #9

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I would have had to get to Mississippi, which I couldn't afford Recursion Dec 2014 #12

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Post-PATRIOT, a PO Box requires a valid ID Recursion Dec 2014 #68

Oh my treestar Dec 2014 #95

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The part you're missing is the hurdles to get to the "easy" solution jeff47 Dec 2014 #26

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When I moved to NY, I had a valid CO license. They wouldn't give me a new NY one. jeff47 Dec 2014 #34

$79.00 for a copy of my birth certificate!!? Pakhet Dec 2014 #135

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KnR to the nth degree! nt tblue37 Dec 2014 #130

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The Columbia Tragedy Derek V Dec 2014 #160

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