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16. What ever you do,just plain do it.

Tue Dec 9, 2014, 03:45 PM

Dec 2014

Had the same family experience,just plain got lucky with my timing when I finally said enough and severed all ties. Looking back to what might have been the possible learning cause of my parents being so hate filled and totally demanding and controlling,depression and other mental health issues that were not to be discussed or dealt with. It's tough to walk away,just don't punish yourself for doing what should have been done earlier. Yes,there will be relatives who will verbally punish you,but,they probably were or are sharing the same codependency as you. Mental health issues for we non Mental Health Professionals,is a learning curve and for many the curve can be steep. Yes,you will be dragged back into this no win family issue,but,you will be better prepared and able to keep things at arms length. Good luck it will work out. Just find your one and only friend and go forward.

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Have you ever been bullied by a parent with Dimentia? I have and I want to tell you my story [View all] Coolest Ranger Dec 2014 OP

Yes, get out. jeff47 Dec 2014 #1

I believe there may be no other way. bravenak Dec 2014 #2

A grandparent, sarisataka Dec 2014 #3

Leave marions ghost Dec 2014 #4

sounds like she wants you around TO abuse you Skittles Dec 2014 #5

You have to get out HappyMe Dec 2014 #6

You are making the right decision, save yourself. LawDeeDah Dec 2014 #7

You've described my wife's Aunt ... 1StrongBlackMan Dec 2014 #8

You are making the right decision, IMHO Rhiannon12866 Dec 2014 #9

My father was a narcissistic sociopath who developed dementia at the end of his life. Dont call me Shirley Dec 2014 #10

I am very sorry for what has been and is happening to you. ChisolmTrailDem Dec 2014 #11

Are you strong enough to stay away? GeorgeGist Dec 2014 #12

I wouldn't want to be subjected to it. Pacifist Patriot Dec 2014 #13

Put yourself first. Do not for one minute think you're being selfish or mean by doing so. AngryOldDem Dec 2014 #14

Yes Sweet Freedom Dec 2014 #15

What ever you do,just plain do it. Wellstone ruled Dec 2014 #16

My husband is a psychiatrist. He says that as people age, they become more mnhtnbb Dec 2014 #17

I'll echo the others and say, yes, get out. And if your relatives give you grief, well, Arugula Latte Dec 2014 #18

The first thing they teach lifeguards is that the drowning person can drown YOU. GreatGazoo Dec 2014 #19

leave, go far away demigoddess Dec 2014 #20

I had to come out of lurking to reply to this lonewolf674 Dec 2014 #21

Get out of there - TBF Dec 2014 #22