"Stars adoption of black children was little more than a fashion accessory"

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37. At the core, all adoptions begin with tremedous loss

Until people are willing to hear and process this, they are not going to be open to listening to any other point of view than their own.

But the idea that celebrities use adoptees, especially trans-racial adoptees as fashion accessories, and yeah, adoption reform activists are acutely aware of this trend. Just recently it was Kim Kardashian who found a cute little girl in an orphanage and "just had to have her". Luckily, this little girl was old enough to say "no". Most children in orphanages are not old enough to say no. The little girl, like most children in orphanages, has a mother and a family. Most are there because their families cannot not provide enough food or education, but are very much wanted and loved.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2840460/Life-Kardashians-d-stay-poverty-Thailand-13-year-old-orphan-girl-Kim-desperate-adopt-says-NO.html

The Uncomfortable Place of Inter-Country Adoption in the Human Rights Arena


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ICA is largely the response to a demand for children in developed countries rather than to absence of care in the countries of origin. Taking children away does not lead to any improvement of the protection of children in those countries but rather the contrary. (Chou and Browne, 2008).

According to human rights conventions such as the UDHR and the ICESCR, motherhood should be protected and parents have a right to social protection and assistance. Enforcement of these rights would, in many cases, prevent the separation of children from their families. And if they don’t, the state has a duty to provide a suitable form of care. According to article 20 of the UNCRC, when considering solutions ‘due regard shall be paid to the desirability of continuity in a child’s upbringing and to the child’s ethnic, religious, cultural and linguistic background.’ From a human rights perspective, sending children in ICA can be regarded as the result of a country’s failure to fulfil its international human rights law obligations.

~more @ link:
http://ohrh.law.ox.ac.uk/the-uncomfortable-place-of-inter-country-adoption-in-the-human-rights-arena/

Finally, most adoptees do not feel safe to talk about issues surrounding adoption with friends and family, they mimic back what they think they are expected to say. I encourage all DUers to watch this film about one trans-racial/inter country adoptee:

There are extremely complex issues inherent in adoption, and those complexities are multiplied in trans-racial and inter-country adoptions.