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LeftinOH

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214. There is such a thing as "transit etiquette"....

Wed Dec 24, 2014, 11:26 AM

Dec 2014

and there are plenty of regular riders who don't get it, not to mention occasional riders.

>Take up only one seat for yourself. Your backpack, shopping bag, giant handbag, other handbag, and lunchbox don't get a seat unto themselves; condense your carry-ons as much as possible and put the lot on your lap or the floor in front of you.

>The seats at the front are reserved for mobility impaired or the visually impaired. Pay attention, and move away from those seats when someone who actually needs them shows up.

>Kindly use earbuds to listen to your "music". Also turn down the volume.

>When it's time to board, please have your fare or fare-card ready. Fumbling for your method of payment while there are people waiting to get on slows everyone down.

>If you are a standee and have a backpack, please be mindful of how much space it takes up; you may want to carry it.

>If you are a standee and are using earbuds, lower the volume enough so you can hear when other passengers trying to get off say "excuse me".

>For sit-down passengers (especially men), remember to close your legs. This is public transit and space is at a premium. Save the splayed legs for the sofa at home.

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New York Subway Officials To Shame People Sitting With Their Legs Spread - "man spreading" [View all] Liberal_in_LA Dec 2014 OP

People want dense living and fewer cars joeglow3 Dec 2014 #1

close ur legs buddy Liberal_in_LA Dec 2014 #4

Fortunately, I don't need to joeglow3 Dec 2014 #6

The distance between brake and accelerator effectively controls this. daleo Dec 2014 #18

Some of us learned to drive on a stick and only use one foot for both brake and accelerator Fumesucker Dec 2014 #19

That would be the only correct way, regardless of the number of pedals. ManiacJoe Dec 2014 #25

+1 Go Vols Dec 2014 #78

You're right daleo Dec 2014 #207

Unless you're driving a race car Codeine Dec 2014 #44

Or driving a stick shift... NutmegYankee Dec 2014 #54

I meant gas and brake two-footing Codeine Dec 2014 #55

"Heel & Toe"-ing. Feral Child Dec 2014 #151

race car drivers break with their right feet? arely staircase Dec 2014 #160

You just failed Driver's Ed. Odin2005 Dec 2014 #168

One of many reasons I will not ride a bus or subwar yeoman6987 Dec 2014 #131

Who are these "people"? Sen. Walter Sobchak Dec 2014 #92

Fair enough. joeglow3 Dec 2014 #94

Actually you wouldn't be keeping your car CreekDog Dec 2014 #148

So maybe NY is too dense and we need to encourage people to spread out joeglow3 Dec 2014 #149

New York City doesn't need to conform to your needs CreekDog Dec 2014 #150

But people are demanding that others conform to their WANTS joeglow3 Dec 2014 #165

Please read the story before you explain things... CreekDog Dec 2014 #169

If people want to live in a place with cars, they should stop bitching about how people park ... ieoeja Dec 2014 #171

Show me the thread wih people whining about that. joeglow3 Dec 2014 #179

I suppose if my Dad wanted to live on a farm, he should have quit bitching about people dumping ... ieoeja Dec 2014 #170

You don't see the difference between... joeglow3 Dec 2014 #180

Yes, I see a difference. But I also see three assholes. n/t ieoeja Dec 2014 #182

I am starting stretches. My goal is to sit with my legs at 180 degrees joeglow3 Dec 2014 #184

Have these dumb shits ever rode on their own trains and buses? Archae Dec 2014 #2

so other people should just stand? Liberal_in_LA Dec 2014 #3

If they have to, yes. Archae Dec 2014 #7

Increase public transportation. joeglow3 Dec 2014 #9

That and some express buses that have limited stops...nt Jesus Malverde Dec 2014 #38

It's so cute listening to people who aren't from NYC prescribe improvements... brooklynite Dec 2014 #40

Then it sounds like public transportation may not be the answer joeglow3 Dec 2014 #56

well perhaps some could close their damn legs.... VanillaRhapsody Dec 2014 #93

Spoken like a republican. joeglow3 Dec 2014 #95

says the left leaning Independent VanillaRhapsody Dec 2014 #134

It was a joke...lighten up joeglow3 Dec 2014 #141

likewise VanillaRhapsody Dec 2014 #147

So now people are labeled 'Republicans' for not being inconsiderate assholes? n/t markpkessinger Dec 2014 #202

Wow. Do you always try to find insults where there are none? joeglow3 Dec 2014 #206

Everyone should just stand...Just have straps to hold on to... snooper2 Dec 2014 #120

I'm just imagining me - a woman - doing that Boudica the Lyoness Dec 2014 #12

and what exactly do us gals do? Skittles Dec 2014 #15

im a woman and 6'2". I fold up like a praying mantis elehhhhna Dec 2014 #60

"like a praying mantis" lol Liberal_in_LA Dec 2014 #67

classic case of male entitlement, elehhhhna Skittles Dec 2014 #73

You're A Foot Taller Than My Wife! ProfessorGAC Dec 2014 #113

Im a foot taller than everybodys wife! elehhhhna Dec 2014 #122

Cool! I learned Something New ProfessorGAC Dec 2014 #123

I'm also 6'2 and I'm not sure how you fold up on planes MillennialDem Dec 2014 #203

Funny. Women sit like this all the time. Keep your legs within the borders of your seat and keep Luminous Animal Dec 2014 #28

And the person next to you? Their legs are not falling asleep? Luminous Animal Dec 2014 #31

And yet many men and women don't have this problem. pnwmom Dec 2014 #33

They're not falling asleep from the moment LiberalElite Dec 2014 #45

I drove 14 hours because I can't stand the way yeoman6987 Dec 2014 #133

Is the problem having long legs. donheld Dec 2014 #5

Tell me about it. Archae Dec 2014 #8

My husband is 6' 4" and my daughter is 6'2". Both long legged. Neither one of them would spread Luminous Animal Dec 2014 #29

Sorry, but the discomfort of being tall ain't got ScreamingMeemie Dec 2014 #11

The problem is having large, external genitalia. woolldog Dec 2014 #17

Nobody's balls are that big. Warpy Dec 2014 #26

Unless you have balls, woolldog Dec 2014 #43

Nobody expects men to clamp their thighs together Warpy Dec 2014 #48

No it won't happen. woolldog Dec 2014 #52

It's nice when DU endorses a policy of assault Orrex Dec 2014 #57

Who endorsed a policy of assault? Warpy Dec 2014 #58

Then you're issuing a promise of action on someone else's behalf? Orrex Dec 2014 #59

bullshit. men make it through 4hour biz meetings elehhhhna Dec 2014 #61

Do men typically sit with their knees pressed together at such biz meetings? Orrex Dec 2014 #66

Again, men have been sitting this way for millenia woolldog Dec 2014 #70

lmao. they squatted before chairs came to fashion, should stick with that. elehhhhna Dec 2014 #72

hilarious when men admit they have never evolved Skittles Dec 2014 #74

and yet, the wide stancers on the subway tend to be under 30 year old males. Gormy Cuss Dec 2014 #97

Do you have any proof of that, other than just saying it? woolldog Dec 2014 #100

Thirty years of riding subways. Gormy Cuss Dec 2014 #117

Actually, they sit in chairs at the office, just like that too. notadmblnd Dec 2014 #85

You are correct-- digonswine Dec 2014 #88

I can do this with no problem JonLP24 Dec 2014 #75

That's great Jon. woolldog Dec 2014 #77

So Jon's a gorilla, and you're a howler monkey? ieoeja Dec 2014 #178

Bullshit digonswine Dec 2014 #82

"nut-stomping competition" LOL steve2470 Dec 2014 #162

Thanks-enjoy the holidays! digonswine Dec 2014 #163

You are wrong-period digonswine Dec 2014 #86

Sitting wrong? woolldog Dec 2014 #90

Really? I am in business meetings with men all the time, smirkymonkey Dec 2014 #108

I am too. woolldog Dec 2014 #124

Pay attention. Just look at the differences in how men and women cross their legs joeglow3 Dec 2014 #185

I don't know how you sit-- digonswine Dec 2014 #157

get a full bladder with no bathroom. i guarantee you'll figure out how to sit without manspreading. unblock Dec 2014 #181

Sit up with legs forward. And yes, short men do this. And tall women don't. Luminous Animal Dec 2014 #30

They ALL do it - LiberalElite Dec 2014 #46

Inconsiderate pissants. Ykcutnek Dec 2014 #10

Omg... TeeYiYi Dec 2014 #13

He could be just limbering up for the riverdance. Warren DeMontague Dec 2014 #35

Stringbean here should have paid three fares. nt LiberalElite Dec 2014 #47

Don't touch me! Stay away from me! MineralMan Dec 2014 #51

i think we've found a love connection for that dude! big_dog Dec 2014 #79

Perhaps his pants... 3catwoman3 Dec 2014 #104

I believe that's exactly what's going on here... TeeYiYi Dec 2014 #106

"Behold the magnificence of my Man Crotch. You're welcome!" Arugula Latte Dec 2014 #129

It looks like he posing for that picture because nobody sits like that Chisox08 Dec 2014 #145

Inconsiderate goon spotted at 12 o'clock! hifiguy Dec 2014 #154

This guy kind of looks like Chip Esten, the comedian from Whose Line Is It Anyway. DawgHouse Dec 2014 #200

You see rudeness... TreasonousBastard Dec 2014 #14

Jinx. Warpy Dec 2014 #27

If anybody on here melman Dec 2014 #110

Funny how that works, isn't it? TreasonousBastard Dec 2014 #112

I didn't see a target. Looked vulnerable to me, despite the 'DNFWM!' facial expression. freshwest Dec 2014 #193

Of my gawd, this made me laugh. Control-Z Dec 2014 #16

LOL! The Outrage Meter will flip out! freshwest Dec 2014 #194

Larry Craig Enrique Dec 2014 #20

Clearly discrimination against those with 'wide stance's... n/t PoliticAverse Dec 2014 #21

Ha ha ha ha ha ha! brush Dec 2014 #41

Priceless!! nruthie Dec 2014 #53

I can't stand leg spreaders in buses JonLP24 Dec 2014 #22

NO SEX THREADS! Behind the Aegis Dec 2014 #23

I always wondered burrowowl Dec 2014 #24

maybe that's physics: lay two pencils parallel: push to top ends together and the far ends MisterP Dec 2014 #64

Man-spreaders are a common variety of subway asshole nt geek tragedy Dec 2014 #32

It's NYC. Warren DeMontague Dec 2014 #34

yes because men are the only ones who take up too much space. dilby Dec 2014 #36

Women generally don't start claiming evolution gives them the duty to do that, though. (nt) Posteritatis Dec 2014 #83

I didn't even know this was a thing. Inkfreak Dec 2014 #37

Me either... TeeYiYi Dec 2014 #63

it is. been growing as a "thing" that riders are complaining about recently Liberal_in_LA Dec 2014 #69

As new 'things' go... TeeYiYi Dec 2014 #102

I have done just that. It's been a long time since I've ridden NYC transit, phylny Dec 2014 #109

What's baffling is how heatedly people defend it Posteritatis Dec 2014 #80

Before this thread I had always assumed they just didn't notice they were pushing others around. ieoeja Dec 2014 #111

Yeah, pretty revealing about the mindset of some DUers, eh? Arugula Latte Dec 2014 #130

They probably *didn't*, but mentioning it provokes "how dare you!" flareups from them. Posteritatis Dec 2014 #155

If I am not mistaken people have already been arrested AndreaCG Dec 2014 #39

You do have to be a little careful . . . brush Dec 2014 #42

Don't make eye contact IMO only applies to a few AndreaCG Dec 2014 #50

I never sit that way. It looks to me like those people MineralMan Dec 2014 #49

Wall Street "man spreads" on the rest of us all day every day Agony Dec 2014 #62

I rode the DC Metro daily for over 5 years justiceischeap Dec 2014 #65

i had a woman sit next to me w legs together but at angle Liberal_in_LA Dec 2014 #68

Did you speak up? WorseBeforeBetter Dec 2014 #71

I rode the DC Metro once seveneyes Dec 2014 #89

You know how a male dog pisses on things to mark terrority? notadmblnd Dec 2014 #76

"the human male" seveneyes Dec 2014 #87

you have almost won Post of Thread award...try a little more please snooper2 Dec 2014 #121

further proof of civilation unraveling olddots Dec 2014 #81

Daddy, don't live in that New York City no more seveneyes Dec 2014 #84

Of the disgusting, annoying and terrifying sub-human behavior I have seen on the NY subway Sen. Walter Sobchak Dec 2014 #91

Close yer damn legs. eom. Raine1967 Dec 2014 #96

LOL! Rex Dec 2014 #98

lol... yuiyoshida Dec 2014 #119

Sort of did that in Chicago once. ieoeja Dec 2014 #172

Can you imagine having that as a job? Rex Dec 2014 #204

Shouldn't the headline say "men" instead of people? jberryhill Dec 2014 #99

Get out of here with your sexist drivel! Calista241 Dec 2014 #116

Why is that guy on the left wearing such short-shorts? Reter Dec 2014 #101

It looks like Pauly Shore circa 1989. Warren DeMontague Dec 2014 #103

Short shorts... TeeYiYi Dec 2014 #105

Those short shorts will never go out of style. donheld Dec 2014 #107

Because his legs are hot. closeupready Dec 2014 #143

As a New Yorker who stands every day during his 50 minutes commute, RedCappedBandit Dec 2014 #114

If you can't tie the story into one group oppressing another group, it wouldn't be much hughee99 Dec 2014 #146

This message was self-deleted by its author RedCappedBandit Dec 2014 #115

I have no problem with this or bags on seats as long as the train is not crowded stevenleser Dec 2014 #118

Which train lines do you see it on - the numbered ones? closeupready Dec 2014 #125

Yep, 1,2,3 are the ones that go both to my house and my main work location. stevenleser Dec 2014 #132

Same reason inferior men need huge trucks. They think they are duping others. Sarcasm NCTraveler Dec 2014 #126

I see men do this all the time. The message: "I'm better than you, so I should take up more space." Arugula Latte Dec 2014 #127

And those fat people. joeglow3 Dec 2014 #186

Yeah, no. This isn't the same. Arugula Latte Dec 2014 #187

Are you a man? joeglow3 Dec 2014 #189

Nope. I'm a woman who has been pushed over in a seat waaaay too many times. Arugula Latte Dec 2014 #190

So, you don't know how uncomfortable it is to smash your balls together joeglow3 Dec 2014 #191

Millions of men manage to sit in public places without either "smashing" their balls together Arugula Latte Dec 2014 #198

From below, it is biology joeglow3 Dec 2014 #199

So not rudely imposing on me and taking over my personal space is "catering" to me? Arugula Latte Dec 2014 #208

Good to see you are hard of reading. joeglow3 Dec 2014 #209

You seem to think men are entitled to take over women's space because of biology. Arugula Latte Dec 2014 #210

No. You have a victim mentality. joeglow3 Dec 2014 #212

Not uncomfortable for women? Are you delusional? Arugula Latte Dec 2014 #215

You think I want to be touching you or anyone else joeglow3 Dec 2014 #216

You're rude, selfish, and arrogant. Arugula Latte Dec 2014 #217

I see biology and evolution only matter for women joeglow3 Dec 2014 #220

Also, why wasn't this ever a Seinfeld episode?! Arugula Latte Dec 2014 #128

Totally agree! Blue Owl Dec 2014 #138

I can picture Elaine bursting into Jerry's apartment: Arugula Latte Dec 2014 #140

Oh goodness, that's PERFECT! Codeine Dec 2014 #156

Ha Ha! Compen-spreading! Love it! Arugula Latte Dec 2014 #166

Perfect description of how it'd be done. Always enjoyed Elaine's 'Fake, fake, fake!' scene, too. freshwest Dec 2014 #195

Honestly, I don't think this was a thing until the last 12-18 months. stevenleser Dec 2014 #142

Hah, really? I've sat next to Man Spreaders on transit trains & airplanes for years and years. Arugula Latte Dec 2014 #152

Yes, some think all women should cede whatever space they're in: bus, line, table, road... freshwest Dec 2014 #196

Really makes folks crotchety Blue Owl Dec 2014 #135

Ba da bing! Arugula Latte Dec 2014 #137

The one on the left looks like a perv Jamaal510 Dec 2014 #136

Well, duh, that is L train for you, regardless of gender. closeupready Dec 2014 #144

This reminded me of the basic training cattle trailers in the Army Quackers Dec 2014 #139

I think the twits up thread defending the spread wouldn't dare in your circumstances. n/t ieoeja Dec 2014 #173

I don't think this has been mentioned. Feral Child Dec 2014 #153

I'm surprised it took this long to be mentioned. ieoeja Dec 2014 #174

Yeah, that's how I see it. Feral Child Dec 2014 #183

2 things spring to mind arely staircase Dec 2014 #158

first big-gulps now this saltpepperdoor Dec 2014 #159

This is dumb. There's a biological reason that men sit like that, and it's not just our nuts. Xithras Dec 2014 #161

I disagree with "this is stupid". But I like the rest. ieoeja Dec 2014 #175

it's really simple, common courtesy for your fellow passengers steve2470 Dec 2014 #164

I'm a dude and this shit baffles me. Odin2005 Dec 2014 #167

I used to think it was all unconscious, but I've seen it enough that I think a lot of men Arugula Latte Dec 2014 #188

Airing it out? Dont call me Shirley Dec 2014 #176

Really? What type of Christian like taliban twlight zone are we slipping into? diabeticman Dec 2014 #177

I've always felt sorry for men regarding this matter. If you don't know, don't ask. freshwest Dec 2014 #192

Of all the new words I never wanted to see coined "manspreading" would pretty much be #1 Ken Burch Dec 2014 #197

Uncouth and boorish. nt Lex Dec 2014 #201

Is there a website to shame these guys? mainer Dec 2014 #205

yes. see link in OP. tumblr thread w lots of pics Liberal_in_LA Dec 2014 #218

I had someone do this to me once on a bus Beringia Dec 2014 #211

wow. the ticket man knew the guy was up to no good Liberal_in_LA Dec 2014 #219

NY Mag interviews man-spreaders on video mainer Dec 2014 #213

There is such a thing as "transit etiquette".... LeftinOH Dec 2014 #214