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bhikkhu

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39. Definitely harder on the kids

Thu Dec 25, 2014, 11:52 PM

Dec 2014

which I still feel a great amount of guilt over. I didn't have much growing up, my mom was great but I always imagined I would be able to do so much more for my kids when I had a family, big plans. It didn't work out so good. My oldest wound up going from A's to B's or worse, and more or less gave up on the idea of college - the idea of all that debt scares her, and she doesn't have the confidence she had when she was younger. My youngest is doing ok. We live in a decent neighborhood in a smaller city where there's a lot of poverty, so I don't think there's too much judgement, but its a big step from here to anyone else. "You can accomplish anything you set your mind to" is easy to tell a kid, but in spite of all good words and intentions they begin to draw their own boundaries of expectation when they are young, and their peers definitely help them.

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In the U.S. 49.7 Million Are Now Poor, and 80% of the Total Population Is Near Poverty [View all] TalkingDog Dec 2014 OP

Puts the 1% right where we want them, doesn't it? Demeter Dec 2014 #1

we're all supposed to look a the SHINY numbers, TalkingDog Skittles Dec 2014 #2

I thought it was a squirrel? Cryptoad Dec 2014 #15

disturbing Ramses Dec 2014 #3

That is because . . . Brigid Dec 2014 #5

indeed, true Ramses Dec 2014 #6

Besides, this country is AWESOME! maddiemom Dec 2014 #53

heh.. yuiyoshida Dec 2014 #55

It's not ignored at all. It's cultivated to help the wealthy stay healthy. For now. n/t jtuck004 Dec 2014 #50

a dishonest headline hfojvt Dec 2014 #4

Thank you. There's a big difference between sometime poor and chronic poor. nolabear Dec 2014 #7

The same tactic is used for hunger stats too. 7962 Dec 2014 #22

The romneys were never poor. NewDeal_Dem Dec 2014 #24

"near poor" hfojvt Dec 2014 #33

They were never near poor either. Mitt's dad was Chairman of American Motors, Gov. of NewDeal_Dem Dec 2014 #45

I think you found the "blind spot" in their article. Major Hogwash Dec 2014 #26

Maybe... there are an awful lot of people 2 paychecks away from homeless... SomethingFishy Dec 2014 #51

and yet hfojvt Dec 2014 #52

Well I'm supporting 6 people, including 3 children SomethingFishy Dec 2014 #54

Your nineteenth-century ancestors . . . Brigid Dec 2014 #59

Hugs to you, honey! closeupready Dec 2014 #77

living was an analogy hfojvt Dec 2014 #78

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sure the numbers add up hfojvt Dec 2014 #73

People should put money away. But you would not make it very far on what you have. JDPriestly Dec 2014 #76

I don't worry about what ifs hfojvt Dec 2014 #80

But then it isn't as sexy for the outrage addicts. Throd Dec 2014 #57

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It's because they are lazy! Dustlawyer Dec 2014 #8

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That sort of shines a spotlight on the "American Dream." NaturalHigh Dec 2014 #12

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"Our Party" ??? StevePaulson Dec 2014 #18

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Your point is well made... blackspade Dec 2014 #32

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bourgeois exploiter.... blackspade Dec 2014 #44

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OK. "Apr�s moi, le d�luge" Louis XVI Tierra_y_Libertad Dec 2014 #28

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I can say from the experience of the last few years, "near poverty" is very different from poverty bhikkhu Dec 2014 #27

I grew up vacillating between poor and near poor and your post definitely rang KingCharlemagne Dec 2014 #30

I had a similair experience growing up. blackspade Dec 2014 #34

I think some of my residual anger issues derive from late childhood and KingCharlemagne Dec 2014 #36

I hear ya. blackspade Dec 2014 #42

I'm the same way... vive la commune Dec 2014 #70

Definitely harder on the kids bhikkhu Dec 2014 #39

+1000 blackspade Dec 2014 #43

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Your post evoked memories I'd thought I left far behind Android3.14 Dec 2014 #49

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Revolution billhicks76 Dec 2014 #31

Wiat a minute. Gary 50 Dec 2014 #35

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