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appalachiablue

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67. Yes these tactics are hitting home real hard. I was with one many years, didn't have the name

Sat Dec 27, 2014, 08:52 PM

Dec 2014

for it then which would have been helpful. Finally left, very late though but it's ok. I knew of Narcissus from classical mythology and art, but didn't hear the current usage until the last 5+ years. Sociopath and psychopath were limited to serial killers pretty much. Anyway, at the end I told him he was gaslighting, from the old movie- something in me pulled that out. Drove him nuts, I couldn't and wouldn't explain, it was useless anyway. But I must have seen it clearly in the film, that I knew from years before. A book or two on n. and s. subject would have been useful for support. Life goes on.

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How To Deal With The Narcissist In Your Life.... [View all] Little Star Dec 2014 OP

I Don't Know the Effectiveness of the Advice On the Road Dec 2014 #1

Thanks for posting, Little Star. Dont call me Shirley Dec 2014 #2

uh, no, we don't Boreal Dec 2014 #10

Uh, we all have fragments of our disowned selves in our own shadow selves. Dont call me Shirley Dec 2014 #14

I'm sorry you had that in your life Boreal Dec 2014 #15

Nor do I, but if we do not acknowledge our shadow disowned selves, we will not heal. Dont call me Shirley Dec 2014 #17

Narcissism and sociopathy Boreal Dec 2014 #18

I think you are right, and appreciate your straight talk. Seems this makes some who dislike appalachiablue Dec 2014 #25

I was unlucky enough to end up in a relationship OwnedByCats Dec 2014 #42

They don't have an inner moral compass Boreal Dec 2014 #43

You nailed that right on the head absolutely OwnedByCats Dec 2014 #54

Your experience is typical Boreal Dec 2014 #55

I will check that one out OwnedByCats Dec 2014 #65

Incredible. appalachiablue Dec 2014 #66

You just described my marriage. laundry_queen Dec 2014 #58

I'm glad you got him out for the most part OwnedByCats Dec 2014 #64

I wasn't talking about healing the narcissists and sociopaths, I was talking about healing for their Dont call me Shirley Dec 2014 #21

"shadow selves"? Where is the phil89 Dec 2014 #27

Carl Jung good enough for ya? Dont call me Shirley Dec 2014 #28

Actually, there is a healthy degree of narcissism -- the type that allows pnwmom Dec 2014 #49

Definintion of terms Boreal Dec 2014 #53

I think you're describing Narcissist Personality Disorder REP Dec 2014 #57

Indeed I am Boreal Dec 2014 #62

What do you think about this? azurnoir Dec 2014 #68

I completely agree with it Boreal Dec 2014 #69

This message was self-deleted by its author azurnoir Dec 2014 #70

Thanks n/t azurnoir Dec 2014 #71

I have 2 in the family, can easily identify and handle. For a wonderful, long overdue book about appalachiablue Dec 2014 #3

B.F. Skinner showed the way to shaping safeinOhio Dec 2014 #4

He was a sadist Boreal Dec 2014 #11

The field of psychology has moved beyond Skinner's "black box theory." pnwmom Dec 2014 #50

Yes it has, but safeinOhio Dec 2014 #59

Get used to them because you're stuck with them? Oh, hardly. MelungeonWoman Dec 2014 #5

Glad you got away from that and through the awful effects. Congrats. Hope you haven't been appalachiablue Dec 2014 #6

Thanks so much for the kind words. MelungeonWoman Dec 2014 #8

Howdy. I love all things plants and gardens too. I was born in Logan Co, WV just next appalachiablue Dec 2014 #24

glad you recognize C-PTSD grasswire Dec 2014 #7

I do too. MelungeonWoman Dec 2014 #9

This is correct Boreal Dec 2014 #12

I agree with everything you've said in this thread laundry_queen Dec 2014 #31

Cheap self help Boreal Dec 2014 #37

Thank you so much. laundry_queen Dec 2014 #40

Have you read "The Children of the Self-Absorbed" by Nina Brown? pnwmom Dec 2014 #48

Gee, I remember the title laundry_queen Dec 2014 #56

Yeah, I divorced my family of origin except for one brother dixiegrrrrl Dec 2014 #30

Scratch a narcissist seveneyes Dec 2014 #13

Rubbish Boreal Dec 2014 #16

Unreconciled reality allows for quantification of its components` seveneyes Dec 2014 #19

It is narcissists and sociopaths who are incapable of love Boreal Dec 2014 #23

A chemistry problem solved by time and a search for the solution seveneyes Dec 2014 #26

They are capable of love AgingAmerican Dec 2014 #36

At some point you will need to address your anger and denial or that alone will destroy you. Dont call me Shirley Dec 2014 #20

Oh, wow Boreal Dec 2014 #22

This message was self-deleted by its author Dont call me Shirley Dec 2014 #29

That's because it's clear the responses come from a place of ignorance laundry_queen Dec 2014 #32

Thank you for recognizing the BS Boreal Dec 2014 #33

It's one of those things laundry_queen Dec 2014 #35

I had a friend who jen63 Dec 2014 #61

Yes these tactics are hitting home real hard. I was with one many years, didn't have the name appalachiablue Dec 2014 #67

I wasn't talking about healing narcissists and sociopaths, there is no effective method of healing Dont call me Shirley Dec 2014 #34

I disagree laundry_queen Dec 2014 #39

How is telling someone that they can seek healing insulting? That is a bizarre statement. Dont call me Shirley Dec 2014 #41

"Everyone he posted to on that thread he was insulting" Boreal Dec 2014 #45

Everyone has a degree of narcissism but some people have it to an unhealthy degree. pnwmom Dec 2014 #47

What do you call nosey people who only talk smack about others? Quantess Dec 2014 #38

Narcissists and sociopaths - nt Boreal Dec 2014 #46

Here is a link to an article by Nina Brown about parental narcissism. pnwmom Dec 2014 #44

No Advice Needed Ryan Fitzomething Dec 2014 #51

Kick Liberal_in_LA Dec 2014 #52

This morning after reading the comments..... Little Star Dec 2014 #60

Our society seems to be designed from the ground up to be a happy hunting ground... hunter Dec 2014 #63

Just because they are family JEB Dec 2014 #72