How To Deal With The Narcissist In Your Life....

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Random Thoughts on Narcissistic Family Members
October 30, 2014 at 9:24pm

Just wondering how do you deal with a narcissistic family member — particularly when that family member is a close relation (mother, father, etc.). I've been thinking about this a lot lately particularly since my sisters and I, singly or together, have dealt with this situation for most of our adult lives. My conclusion is that there is very little you can do except put as much distance between yourself and that person.



The person in question can't be reasoned with; can't be made to see how they are in the wrong, and can not be made to understand that everything is not about them and that the people around them are not in some grand conspiracy against them. They will do everything in their power to maintain whatever hold they can on you. They will attempt to make you feel guilty even when they are the ones at fault. I've seen these people react irrationally — and even violently — when you tell them the truth, and will usually twist your words around when speaking about you to other people. I should not only twist your words but add things that weren't even mentioned in whatever conversation you've had with them.



If this doesn't describe an abusive relationship, then I don't know what does. But like any abusive relationship, you get the fuck out or you allow that other person's poison to gradually wear away at you until you become their own willing slave.



These people are a poison.



They are a drain on you, and you are better off without them.



Yes, it's even harder when that person is a family member but once again — you are 100% better off without them.