Do men understand rape?

[politicman]

9. as a man, here is my take on this....

its not that we don't understand rape, its that we find it too easy for any woman to accuse a man of rape years later and ruin his reputation instantly.

We see with our own eyes how women can easily and many times do go to go to court and get a restraining order for something small, and we find it hard to believe that a women who has been raped (something huge) won't go to the police or some authority and report the rape.


Many women do get raped, we acknowledge that and accept it completely, but for me at least, I won't just believe a women automatically if she says she was raped, whether she does it the same day or 30 years later.


I wont believe automatically because even though it has never and probably will never happen to me, I view rape as one of the worst crimes imaginable, and as such cannot understand how any women can stay silent about a crime as big as that one that will affect them for the rest of their lives.


I will be attacked for this, but I firmly believe that any woman can accuse someone of rape simply to get back at them for something.
I'm not saying that it happens frequently, or that it happens at all, but the fact that it can possibly happen that way makes me wonder whether everytime there is an allegation, that maybe it could be real or it could be a ex-lover getting revenge.

Also, it could possibly be a woman that did something with someone in the spur of the moment when she was feeling good and the next morning regrets it and so to make herself feel better she convinces herself that she didn't want it to happen and accuses rape.



AGAIN, I am not accusing anyone or suggesting anyone does this, just the mere fact that it has the possibility of happening is enough to give me pause and wonder whether to believe a certain accusation or not.