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davidpdx

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104. Thank you for brining that up

Sun Jan 11, 2015, 04:02 AM

Jan 2015

Plus, the boy's father needs to be a lot more responsible.

While it is hard to know the situation for sure it sounds like he's not trying very hard to help out. That bugs me as a man. I grew up in a divorced family and the little amount of money my mom got from my dad was sickening.

People who don't want kids or are too young to have them should make sure they don't. Yes, accidents happen. Condoms break, contraception can fail, in the heat of the moment people say "fuck it".

When I was 19 I ended up sleeping with a gal who later claimed her baby was mine. It turned out I was one of a few candidates (maybe just the stupidest looking one since I was "chosen" by her to be the baby's daddy). Thankfully a paternity test proved otherwise. I was ready to step in and take responsibility, but grateful it wasn't. I decided in my 20's to get a vasectomy as I never wanted children. It was a combination of that experience and the fucked up childhood that brought me to that point.

Hey I like sex as much as anyone else, but if you play you got to play the piper.

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