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Proud Public Servant

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6. Not so much "bad" as "traumatic"

Reply to Takket (Reply #2)

Sun Jan 11, 2015, 10:34 AM

Jan 2015

As an adoptee, I can't help but notice the popular discourse on adoption; for the last ten years or so there's been a distinct thread of "adoption leaves a child incomplete," especially regarding adoptions where the birth-mother gave up all rights of contact. This discourse purports to be sympathetic to adoptees (it's a staple of therapeutic talk TV like Dr. Phil), but I think a lot of us find it pretty insulting.

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Adoption, the conventional wisdom is it's bad. I have a little experience, and I say Pfui. [View all] Savannahmann Jan 2015 OP

What conventional wisdom are you referring to? N.T. Donald Ian Rankin Jan 2015 #1

Several articles over the last few years. Savannahmann Jan 2015 #3

I've never heard of adoption being characterized as bad... Takket Jan 2015 #2

Not so much "bad" as "traumatic" Proud Public Servant Jan 2015 #6

I won't dare speak for you. Savannahmann Jan 2015 #22

then you've not met enough... Duppers Jan 2015 #24

There is an active "adoptee rights" movement that seems to think adoption is harmful pnwmom Jan 2015 #26

My Father and his brother were adopted yeoman6987 Jan 2015 #4

Gotta agree Proud Public Servant Jan 2015 #5

My sister and father were adopted... Adrahil Jan 2015 #7

Sounds like you have a good and loving family. I think it is a positive that these days, Sunlei Jan 2015 #8

Thank you for this. onecaliberal Jan 2015 #9

Just remember, theaocp Jan 2015 #10

I have seen trans-racial adoption slammed as "cultural genocide" here on DU. Nye Bevan Jan 2015 #11

I actually walked away from DU for a year or so over that attitude. Coventina Jan 2015 #12

Why can't it be both/and? intheflow Jan 2015 #13

I am adopted as well - el_bryanto Jan 2015 #14

I am truly happy for you. Tribalceltic Jan 2015 #15

I don't think I've ever met any adoptee who was sorry s/he was adopted. It isn't the adoption that 1monster Jan 2015 #16

adopting a child is an act of love. abakan Jan 2015 #17

I was adopted along with my siblings B2G Jan 2015 #18

The main reason adoptees have more problems surely has to do vanlassie Jan 2015 #19

Conventional wisdom says adoption is bad? SheilaT Jan 2015 #20

good point. nt Duppers Jan 2015 #27

i'm adopted as well -- couldn't love my folks more. xchrom Jan 2015 #21

As the father of two adopted children (now adults) I say "bunk" to that conventional wisdom. Scuba Jan 2015 #23

You brought tears to my eyes. Duppers Jan 2015 #25

My son and daughter in law adopted spartan61 Jan 2015 #28

Agree pathansen Jan 2015 #29

not adopted eccl Sep 2016 #30