Do men understand rape?

[seabeyond]

115. for a couple decades, i never told those that i love, that love me about my rape. all men.

i thought maybe the reaction may be over the top in their defense of me, with their lifetime boisterous claims of maleness.

i say this in love and understanding with the complexity of the issue.

emotionless, without the drama or trauma of the situation, i was imparting relevant information to a discussion. i felt that i would bring up past personal experience, for better understanding.

i wasnt asking anything from these men, in support. that was not a position i was coming from. so, they did not have to deal with the recent of the event as it was a couple decades after. they did not have to deal with the emotion of it, cause meh.... i do not take any kind of blame or responsibility of it, and it is simply for me personally to not feel attached to the experience. and htere was no need for them to provide any empathy or sympathy for the experience.

two said nothing as if they did not even hear. and one said, why would you tell me this?

in the discussion all i said was i had experienced rape.

i did not go into it in anyway. just that simple statement.... in a discussion. two were silent, and one said... do not say that out loud.

yet. i see on this subthread, a man, telling me how i am suppose to do it. when clearly, every step of the way, we women are told to shut the fuck up about it, lay back and enjoy if inevitable.

very offensive.

yet i see posters that bluntly and less than civilly challenge that, get a hide.