Please understand that each adoption is a unique and individual experience. I am not against adoption, but I think that any person should have the right to information about themselves when they become adults.
My wife was adopted (or kidnapped, stolen or sold) depending on the stories we can get from what little paperwork remains and stories from her family. On the day her adopted Mother passed away her father burned all of the paperwork regarding the adoption. Until her doctors started treating her for a disabling condition my wife had never even considered searching for her birth mother.
Everything she had been told turned out to be a lie. Her birth date could have been changed up to six months either way. We learned of a home for unwed mothers that had existed when she was born that routinely told the mothers that their children had been stillborn or died just after they left the delivery room. Records could be obtained for a $5,000 fee from the son of the owner, but shortly he destroyed them all.
We learned of orphan trains running all over the country. No paperwork just come aboard and pick a baby!
Genetic testing is available, for a price, and it's been dropping lately. They can isolate some diseases, and possible put one in contact with relatives. It may reveal very little.
People who want children can become desperate, and some people want children for very evil reasons.
Sorry to rain on your parade, but not all adoptees have happy lives.
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