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10. I don't think she is in pain because they have her on pain meds...

Sun Jan 18, 2015, 04:46 PM

Jan 2015

I don't know anything for certain except I will not make excuses for my friend and I will not make any judgments of what she chooses to do in this matter. What I will do is support her the best I can and help her when needed. If all you want to do is argue about who is right or wrong in life or death decisions made by others, I'm done.

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Some people should never be allowed to be doctors! [View all] abakan Jan 2015 OP

Geez onecaliberal Jan 2015 #1

You need to learn a little more about dying. easychoice Jan 2015 #2

that is what I was thinking.....if the ONLY life I had left was languishing in a bed.... VanillaRhapsody Jan 2015 #4

Respiratory distress is such a fun way to go. GeorgeGist Jan 2015 #5

Not if the patient is comatose Nt newfie11 Jan 2015 #34

The Dr. needs to learn a bit more about bedside manner treestar Jan 2015 #24

Thank you abakan Jan 2015 #27

"When I posted this I never thought I would have to defend myself or my friend." SMC22307 Jan 2015 #60

You are still wrong...But by all means keep beating that horse if it makes you feel any better. abakan Jan 2015 #64

I didn't get that impression at all. Mariana Jan 2015 #29

i agree. nt DesertFlower Jan 2015 #56

Is she in pain though? VanillaRhapsody Jan 2015 #3

No she is not in any pain. abakan Jan 2015 #6

How do you know that? VanillaRhapsody Jan 2015 #8

I don't think she is in pain because they have her on pain meds... abakan Jan 2015 #10

there you go....there IS pain..... VanillaRhapsody Jan 2015 #13

You definitely made a judgement on your friend and put pressure on her Divernan Jan 2015 #14

she had already had her conversation with him abakan Jan 2015 #19

I'm sorry, but enlightenment Jan 2015 #15

+1 n/t tammywammy Jan 2015 #18

No I stated abakan Jan 2015 #21

The point remains. enlightenment Jan 2015 #38

Your friend's mother isn't coming back, is she? Does she have any quality of life now? pnwmom Jan 2015 #50

"If all you want to do is ..." dumbcat Jan 2015 #31

The point I was trying to make is.. abakan Jan 2015 #40

so sorry honey elehhhhna Jan 2015 #51

I should add that I posted with all due compassion,respect and sympathy for your friend. easychoice Jan 2015 #7

I don't see anything wrong with what he said. tammywammy Jan 2015 #9

Then we will have to disagree. abakan Jan 2015 #12

You can't take your situation and apply it across the board. tammywammy Jan 2015 #16

I agree with you newfie11 Jan 2015 #37

Would YOU want to artificially draw out your own death like that? Divernan Jan 2015 #11

I have my advanced directive abakan Jan 2015 #17

If that doc IS a jerk, hospice can run interference for your friend. Divernan Jan 2015 #20

I've had the advanced directive in my will for a long time... CTyankee Jan 2015 #22

I have answered that question abakan Jan 2015 #25

Your friend should contact hospice mcar Jan 2015 #23

She is taking her home and hospice is coming to her house. abakan Jan 2015 #26

That's good mcar Jan 2015 #28

She'll also get help with things like bathing her mother Warpy Jan 2015 #35

My MIL was only on for a weekend mcar Jan 2015 #52

Yes, I had to fight to get my own mother on it. Warpy Jan 2015 #58

I have been in these situations, and the one thing they had in common TreasonousBastard Jan 2015 #30

Oh. While I was typing that you mentioned she is going to hospice at home... TreasonousBastard Jan 2015 #32

Yeah, he stepped on his tongue Warpy Jan 2015 #33

I would not presume to make her decisions abakan Jan 2015 #42

Do you know what you call the person who finished last in their medical school class? MohRokTah Jan 2015 #36

You have your opinion and the doctr had a different one. 99Forever Jan 2015 #39

this was never about points of view... abakan Jan 2015 #44

I have to say when My mother was in the hospital and all the senior doctors were talking about how hollysmom Jan 2015 #41

I understand, but the doctor is trying to help your friend's mom. Avalux Jan 2015 #43

A wonderful response to the OP KMOD Jan 2015 #55

That doctor lacks compassion. Ykcutnek Jan 2015 #45

Thank You for getting it. abakan Jan 2015 #46

What is the quality of life for the mother? LisaL Jan 2015 #54

Thank You for asking abakan Jan 2015 #59

Difficult decisions Fluothane Jan 2015 #47

Even if the doctor said exactly the words you quoted, Ms. Toad Jan 2015 #48

Thoughtful post. (n/t) SMC22307 Jan 2015 #61

As long as she is on a lot of pain medication and is comfortable is what should matter Ramses Jan 2015 #49

Sounds like the death is inevitable. LisaL Jan 2015 #53

when my husband was terminal (brain tumor) the DesertFlower Jan 2015 #57

Were you there at the time? Did you hear the doctor actually use those words? magical thyme Jan 2015 #62

I understand how difficult this is for your friend. Heidi Jan 2015 #63

Death is a funny thing AndreaCG Jan 2015 #65