Pope Says It's OK to Spank Kids, if Their Dignity Is Kept

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30. Why, in your mind, are the only choices spanking or spoiling?

Spanking is for the lazy. It is possible to discipline and raise your children well without spanking. I have VERY well behaved children - not just my opinion, that's the opinion of their teachers, coaches, friends' parents, extended family, even MY profs (had to take my youngest to class a few times - she was 5 at the time and spent 8 hours in a classroom and didn't disrupt us once).

I have never spanked them - not even once. I DID discipline them using a variety of techniques and *gasp* treating them like human beings. There are rules and boundaries in our household, and the kids are expected to follow them. It was never necessary to hit them. Never. Because I spent so much time when they were younger building a base of trust and respect that when they grew older usually all that was needed was a quick talk. But that's 'too much work' for most spankers. That was my dad. Couldn't be bothered with us. A good whack kept us in line quickly and efficiently. And it meant I have no meaningful relationship with him now and when I do think of him, it's with disgust and resentment. I'd rather have a relationship with my kids when they are adults, thanks.