PSA: No, Men, You Cannot Rape A Child Even If She Is Hot And Slutty And Only Says No Twice

[Kurska]

50. Tone does matter, sorry it does.

"But being emotional does not make one’s points any less valid."

For instance, this is broadly true. Emotion can be used to great effect in messaging. However, when the emotion is ANGER at the target audience. That emotion is going make the message way less effective. Saying something true in a way that makes people not want to believe (when there are way better ways of saying it), does no one good.

"Anger is NOT counterproductive; being “nice” is counterproductive. Nobody was ever given rights by politely asking for them. Politeness is nothing but a set of behavioral expectations that is enforced upon marginalized people."

People get rights by portraying themselves as sympathetic. That was the major lesson of the civil rights movement. The idea that you get rights by yelling really loudly at people (in the form of blog posts on the internet) is asinine. For instance, studies have shown the most effective way to increase support for gay marriage is one on one pleasant conversations with an actual gay person about the damage that not being allowed to marry does to them.

http://www.advocate.com/politics/marriage-equality/2014/12/11/study-gay-canvassers-persuade-voters-marriage-equality

You really think it wouldn't have mattered if the canvasser had burst in and started yelling the exact same script?

How you say it is just as important as what you say if you're actually trying to make an impact. If you just want to circle the wagons and scream into an echo-chamber, then it doesn't matter, because you weren't ever actually going to do anything with your voice.